Should We Expect to Get Our Deposit Back?

[SlyJr]

I've said it here before and will say it again. It's not what you say, but how you say it. If the provider cancels, they should present two options to the client:

1. Full refund immediately.
2. Reschedule to a mutually agreeable date and time.

As for the tone at which the client responded, it's expected from a percentage of people. I worked customer service and retail for many years in my younger days. I was one of those that 100% didn't subscribe to the belief of "the customer is always right." You treat people the way you want to be treated and respect is earned not expected. Full Stop.

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[shaned]

In my opinion Kat was right and made her safety her # 1 priority. She was a true professional by contacting her client and explaining the situation which they should’ve been aware of, the client in this case was being a dick. It’s not as if Kat took the deposit and then no showed the date and doesn’t even have the professional courtesy to return any forms of correspondence like the many others out there which there are far too many to name. From what I hear, Kat is a true professional with a very good reputation

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[shion]

I saw this trend online a few days ago. Lets put aside the fact that the guy was an inconsiderate dick, which he absolutely was.

It should have never gotten there. If a provider is the one who initiates a cancellation, regardless of the reasoning, the client should be entitled to a full refund of the deposit. Rescheduling should be the client’s choice, not forced onto him. There is no gray area here. Its black and white.

I travel for work and see escorts when I’m in certain towns only 1-2 times a year. If I get there, schedule time and pay a deposit, and the provider has to cancel, there’s no guaranteed timeframe of when I’ll be back in town. No harm no foul in terms of the cancellation (especially with something serious like icy roads) but I’m ABSOLUTELY owed my deposit back. And will happily pay the deposit again next time I’m in town.

Again, guy was a dick about the entire thing, but Kat initially acting like it was off putting to consider giving even half of the deposit back (with other escorts agreeing with her) is a major issue.

From HIS post, it seems like she disrespected him first by going on SM...unless I'm reading it wrong.


Here's a thing : You expect NOT to get your deposit back even if there's no meet up.

Why? Because they 're PSE???? If so, that says more about the moral compass of the Provider.

Putting a down payment on a service NOT provided.

That's makes the industry look bad.

Furthermore, it shouldn't be the PSE decision to reschedule for next time if they cancel for reason.

That's the client's decision: if he wants to reschedule or wants his deposit refunded.

That's for him to decide.....not her.

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[tinman]

So I have had a few scenarios about deposits this past 12 months:

Case 1 - the girl did no show in San Diego and did not reply to my texts or emails for days. Then as I threatened to post a bad review she then replied and made up a story about her having an emergency surgery being the reason why she never showed up. Yet upon further digging and asking around this chick who used to be famous in San Diego apparently got into a lot of issues with substance abuse and others have called her and her BF out for scamming people. It was not a big deposit ( maybe 500) but she eventually refunded me back after 2 -3 transfers ( she was refunding 100 here and 200 there) so it may have reflected her struggling financially. However I was under the impression that she was trying to scam me and I was lucky to have my full deposit back after making a lot of effort and hassle to call her bullshit.

Case 2 - I made an appointment a week in advance with a well known high end provider in SF for a Sunday after my plane landed so I paid close to 1000 for deposit. Yet she changed her mind the day before and immediately sent back my refund without even asking me if I want to reschedule. Oh well. It was quick and painless . No hassle at all.

Case 3 - a girl I found on Twitter and Private delights agreed to meet on a Wednesday during my first week of business in San Jose but on the evening she did a no shown. I kept sending her messages and using my tactic of give my money back or I would launch a smear your reputation campaign. She replied and said she had to rush her sick mom to the hospital and asked if I want my money back or reschedule. Her tone sound sincere and apologetic so I asked to reschedule the week after. Then an hour before our meeting time she said she had to cancel and will refund my money. After not hearing from her for over a week I messaged and said it was not acceptable but my spider sense told me it could have been family related. So I did the unthinkable and asked if she was struggling financially because she had to take care of her sick mom. She got back to me over the phone and apologized that her mom passed away which was why she could not meet me in the following week and asked if I can give her a few more weeks to pay back my deposit of $280. I told her just keep the deposit for her mom’s funeral expenses and if she wants to meet again later don’t charge me a deposit. She cried and thanked me for my kindliness. She later showed me pic of her mom’s death certificate so she was not lying. I gave her my condolences and asked if she needed more money to bury her mom. Times are hard and I know many are struggling so I feel like the world can use more compassion. She declined my offer and said she hopes to meet me one day to say thanks in person.

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[philackson757]

An escort took my deposit and didn't meet me on the agreed day. Instead of giving me a refund, she said it will be used for another we meet. She even called it "store credit."

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[tinman]

An escort took my deposit and didn't meet me on the agreed day. Instead of giving me a refund, she said it will be used for another we meet. She even called it "store credit."

I actually have had plenty of incidents with pornstars who could not make it to the scheduled dates and then asked to use the deposit for upcoming dates. Most of them are honorable and trust worthy as they are being used for the next date.

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[NJLover]

I actually have had plenty of incidents with pornstars who could not make it to the scheduled dates and then asked to use the deposit for upcoming dates. Most of them are honorable and trust worthy as they are being used for the next date.

Thats awesome, but thats not the original point of the thread. If a provider is the one who initiates the cancellation, at the bare minimum, a full refund of the deposit should an immediate option.

I took a business trip recently to Boston and scheduled time to see a provider. Paid the deposit. If she cancels on me, all good. But I have no future scheduled date when I’ll be back in town. Also assumes that the next time I’m in town, she’ll also be there and available. Too many variables to just rely on “store credit” that I may never have the opportunity to use.

Refund of the deposit should ALWAYS be an option if the provider cancels, no matter what the reason is.

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[Deleted member 10784]

Had a recent deposit run in with a popular Elite Companion in Chicago. She accidentally double booked our session when she wasn't free so offered to refund my deposit. I initially told her to do so but then changed my mind and said hold it for a reschedule.

I then reached out to reschedule and everything looked good till the day of she got sick and had to cancel and ghosted me for a few days before refunding a partial deposit. I think it was a mistake and she got mixed up on how long of a session I had booked ergo the deposit amount but over $50 I didn't want to raise a stink, figured I'd bring it up if/when I try rescheduling again and just give her less then.

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