“Should I, or should I not, get into a sugarbabe relationship?”
As a guy who’s had a sugarbabe for
three years and then some, I honestly wish I’d read a post like this
before getting into it. But here I am, writing it now - because I’m probably in the perfect position to do so.
It would be easy for me to simply say:
“Don’t do it.”
But then the obvious questions start bubbling up:
- Why shouldn’t I get one?
- What makes you say having an SB is a mistake?
- Is it really that bad?
I want to address all of that. And if this post helps even one or two gentlemen avoid mistakes or at least go in with open eyes - then I’ve done my job.
First of all: having a sugarbabe is HARD work
And I don’t mean “hard” in a cute, playful way.
You are
constantly managing the relationship. You have to make sure she’s happy, that you’re not losing ground, that you’re always one step ahead. You
always need to be sure she has what she needs.
If she says: “I just saw these shoes from…”
You buy them.
If she needs money? You send it
first and figure things out later.
That “send money first, think later” mindset means one thing:
You
must have serious financial stability.
You need:
- Solid savings
- A well-paying job
- A financial buffer that never hits zero
Before even
considering a sugarbabe, you need to ask yourself how much you have saved—and how much you’re genuinely willing to spend on one woman.
Why I personally advise against it
Because nothing drains your bank account faster.
And I mean
nothing.
Let me give you a real example.
The third time I met my then-SB, we were in
Madrid. We decided to hit a
“clear-out sale” at a Versace store. Yes - I made her listen to
“Versace” by Migos the entire way there.
Picture this:
- Me sitting there with two oversized gold chains
- Eight Versace rings
- Just enjoying the whole ridiculous show
I can’t and won’t ever blame her—she was loving it.
After the shopping spree, we went home, had sex, had several drinks, passed out…
I woke up the next morning, checked my bank account, and thought—
and I’m not exaggerating:
“What the fuck… why did I spend that much money?”
It was a
substantial amount. Clearance or not - Versace prices are still premium prices.
And yet… I stayed in the SB relationship even after that.
Do I regret those financial choices?
Absolutely.
Do I regret spending
that much on one woman?
Yes.
But what’s done is done.
So… would I recommend it?
Honestly?
50/50.
As “sugardaddies,” we’re expected to spend a
large sum over time - especially if we want exclusivity or long-term interest.
Personally, I spent
$80,000+ over three years. And that’s on the
moderate side.
Why?
Because my sugarbabe wasn’t even in my country. I had to
travel to see her.
If your sugarbabe is based in your own country?
Trust me - the money you’ll spend will be
substantially higher.
The competition is real.
I once competed with a guy who owned
dozens of restaurants and cafés across the Netherlands. That’s not sustainable long-term - for most gentlemen.
And that was just
one guy.
Personally, if I’m not a girl’s
first guy, I don’t even want or deserve, her. If I can’t afford her without burning myself financially, that’s on
me, not her.
Final thoughts
A sugarbabe arrangement can be fun, intoxicating, and ego-boosting - but it’s also financially brutal and emotionally demanding.
Go in blind, and you’ll regret it.
Go in prepared, and you
might enjoy it.
Just don’t say nobody warned you.
Think twice and maybe even get a second opinion from EA, before you get into anything.
