“Should I, or should I not, get into a sugarbabe relationship?”
As a guy who’s had a sugarbabe for three years and then some, I honestly wish I’d read a post like this before getting into it. But here I am, writing it now - because I’m probably in the perfect position to do so.
It would be easy for me to simply say: “Don’t do it.”
But then the obvious questions start bubbling up:
You are constantly managing the relationship. You have to make sure she’s happy, that you’re not losing ground, that you’re always one step ahead. You always need to be sure she has what she needs.
If she says: “I just saw these shoes from…”
You buy them.
If she needs money? You send it first and figure things out later.
That “send money first, think later” mindset means one thing:
You must have serious financial stability.
You need:
And I mean nothing.
Let me give you a real example.
The third time I met my then-SB, we were in Madrid. We decided to hit a “clear-out sale” at a Versace store. Yes - I made her listen to “Versace” by Migos the entire way there.
Picture this:
After the shopping spree, we went home, had sex, had several drinks, passed out…
I woke up the next morning, checked my bank account, and thought—and I’m not exaggerating:
“What the fuck… why did I spend that much money?”
It was a substantial amount. Clearance or not - Versace prices are still premium prices.
And yet… I stayed in the SB relationship even after that.
Do I regret those financial choices?
Absolutely.
Do I regret spending that much on one woman?
Yes.
But what’s done is done.
As “sugardaddies,” we’re expected to spend a large sum over time - especially if we want exclusivity or long-term interest.
Personally, I spent $80,000+ over three years. And that’s on the moderate side.
Why?
Because my sugarbabe wasn’t even in my country. I had to travel to see her.
If your sugarbabe is based in your own country?
Trust me - the money you’ll spend will be substantially higher.
The competition is real.
I once competed with a guy who owned dozens of restaurants and cafés across the Netherlands. That’s not sustainable long-term - for most gentlemen.
And that was just one guy.
Personally, if I’m not a girl’s first guy, I don’t even want or deserve, her. If I can’t afford her without burning myself financially, that’s on me, not her.
Go in blind, and you’ll regret it.
Go in prepared, and you might enjoy it.
Just don’t say nobody warned you.
Think twice and maybe even get a second opinion from EA, before you get into anything.
As a guy who’s had a sugarbabe for three years and then some, I honestly wish I’d read a post like this before getting into it. But here I am, writing it now - because I’m probably in the perfect position to do so.
It would be easy for me to simply say: “Don’t do it.”
But then the obvious questions start bubbling up:
- Why shouldn’t I get one?
- What makes you say having an SB is a mistake?
- Is it really that bad?
First of all: having a sugarbabe is HARD work
And I don’t mean “hard” in a cute, playful way.You are constantly managing the relationship. You have to make sure she’s happy, that you’re not losing ground, that you’re always one step ahead. You always need to be sure she has what she needs.
If she says: “I just saw these shoes from…”
You buy them.
If she needs money? You send it first and figure things out later.
That “send money first, think later” mindset means one thing:
You must have serious financial stability.
You need:
- Solid savings
- A well-paying job
- A financial buffer that never hits zero
Why I personally advise against it
Because nothing drains your bank account faster.And I mean nothing.
Let me give you a real example.
The third time I met my then-SB, we were in Madrid. We decided to hit a “clear-out sale” at a Versace store. Yes - I made her listen to “Versace” by Migos the entire way there.
Picture this:
- Me sitting there with two oversized gold chains
- Eight Versace rings
- Just enjoying the whole ridiculous show
After the shopping spree, we went home, had sex, had several drinks, passed out…
I woke up the next morning, checked my bank account, and thought—and I’m not exaggerating:
“What the fuck… why did I spend that much money?”
It was a substantial amount. Clearance or not - Versace prices are still premium prices.
And yet… I stayed in the SB relationship even after that.
Do I regret those financial choices?
Absolutely.
Do I regret spending that much on one woman?
Yes.
But what’s done is done.
So… would I recommend it?
Honestly? 50/50.As “sugardaddies,” we’re expected to spend a large sum over time - especially if we want exclusivity or long-term interest.
Personally, I spent $80,000+ over three years. And that’s on the moderate side.
Why?
Because my sugarbabe wasn’t even in my country. I had to travel to see her.
If your sugarbabe is based in your own country?
Trust me - the money you’ll spend will be substantially higher.
The competition is real.
I once competed with a guy who owned dozens of restaurants and cafés across the Netherlands. That’s not sustainable long-term - for most gentlemen.
And that was just one guy.
Personally, if I’m not a girl’s first guy, I don’t even want or deserve, her. If I can’t afford her without burning myself financially, that’s on me, not her.
Final thoughts
A sugarbabe arrangement can be fun, intoxicating, and ego-boosting - but it’s also financially brutal and emotionally demanding.Go in blind, and you’ll regret it.
Go in prepared, and you might enjoy it.
Just don’t say nobody warned you.
Think twice and maybe even get a second opinion from EA, before you get into anything.
