A cautionary tale... I'm an idiot

[Stayin’ Alive]

The vets around here already will know this, but some may not... and I'll preface anything I say with the fact that this is all 100% my fault for being an...

The vets around here already will know this, but some may not... and I'll preface anything I say with the fact that this is all 100% my fault for being an easy mark and letting myself get taken advantage of...

Long story short... (kinda)

Became "friends" or whatever with a PS who is now a provider 5 years ago (not going to name her)... 2 years ago she even gave me her personal phone #... admittedly I had been helping her financially periodically as well (nothing crazy, but if she said she was starving and couldn't buy dinner I'd send, say $25 to help)...

something changed over 3 months ago and things ramped up... given her over $1,000 since then for various reasons... and here's where it gets into me being a bleeping moron... I never once put conditions on it... I was just being a "nice guy"... a "true friend"... so I didn't ask for sex... all I ever asked for was a specific video (never got it) and a certain piece of clothing she wore that I enjoyed (never got it).

and now, it's unlikely I will ever speak to her again or see her again in my life... so what did I take away from it?

1) I am really, really stupid
2) women in this industry don't have "friends" they have men they view as banks, it's ALL a business and nothing more
3) nice guys ALWAYS finish last
4) even if she says you "mean something to her" you don't... your money does... once that dries up or she no longer needs it cause her financial situation improves... you are just a burden in her life

Anyway, be smarter than me... be better than me.

Going to live up to my name now, goodbye everyone. Keep enjoying this "hobby" or whatever it is.

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[bigbadray1]

Hey man, I just want to say I respect you for being honest and vulnerable about what happened. It takes guts to admit when we’ve been hurt or made mistakes, especially in situations where emotions and trust are involved.

You’re not stupid—just human. A lot of us have been where you are, trying to help someone because we cared, and hoping that maybe it meant something more. It's easy to forget that in this industry, as much as it can feel personal, it’s still a business for most providers. That doesn’t make your feelings invalid or your kindness meaningless—it just means your intentions didn’t match the reality of her perspective.

You learned something the hard way, but that doesn't mean you're doomed to repeat it. You still have value, and being a kind person in a cynical world is not a weakness—just needs better boundaries. Don’t let this change the core of who you are. Just use it to be smarter and stronger moving forward

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[Sexaddict]

Everything you said is true, except for "I am stupid".
You aren't stupid, you thought that a girl that you liked cared about you and that the feelings were mutual but they weren´t.

It´s the same thing with sugar babes, they have 10´s of guys lining up to give them money, gifts etc. Once one guy stops giving, they just move on to another guy with a big wallet. That is the sad reality. I´m speaking from personal experience.

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[PorkysReturn]

$1,000 is actually on the lower side, could read in here men spending 5 digits some times tho rarely 6. Sucks you didnt get any sex and why you should go through an agency cause these women will spin you.

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[Fialcapmode]

We live in a monetary society, so money will always be at the forefront. Nothing wrong with giving women money as long as you are getting what you want out of the deal.

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[Swytypy]

Going to live up to my name now, goodbye everyone. Keep enjoying this "hobby" or whatever it is.

I’m way more concerned about this statement than anything else. I hope you’re just saying goodbye to the hobby or the forum and not doing anything more serious. No temporary problem is worth such a permanent solution. And what you experienced is a life lesson, a temporary problem that you’ll learn from and be better for having experienced.

We’ve all lost money here. I lost $6,500 last year to someone I trusted. I gave money and gifts to a PS I’d seen, who turned it around on me and used it against me when I had the gall to ask for a photo in a thong I’d bought her. I just got scammed out of $500 4 days ago. It sucks but it’s part of life and the hobby.

Stay here so the community can help you work through it.

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[king-sama4u2nv]

I think your intensions were good. As a person looking for friendship and not so much anything sexual you pretty much came into the relationship with good intensions. Not going to include the video and clothing as the relationship was mutual and should still be look at as that. This has happened to the best of us and for those who would want to call you a simp would be dead wrong, IMO. If you go through here you'd see a number of us have done worst than this, so I wouldn't be to hard on yourself.

We all get that wake up call sooner or later. The realization that a lot of these providers or PS or however you want to look at it see us as banks. It's a lot like your first love, it's moment in life you never forget preparing you for what comes next. That's really the only way to look at it; as a lesson.

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[Townbizz54]

Unfortunately, trust in this industry is nearly impossible to find and you as the client always have to have your guard up. one of my regulars who is not a porn star has been asking me to send her $200 for about a week. It’s only $200 but that issomething I flat out will not do it. There is not a chance in hell no matter how much I do trust that girl I will not send her that money to it but it will not be sent.

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[Townbizz54]

Also about the lessons.
1 you’re not stupid, we’ve all been fooled by pussy.
2 all women view men as banks now, not just hookers and pornstars, but becuse of that you as the man are in control and need to remember you can say no.
2b they do have friends. Infact there are at least 5 girls I would call friends who I have no intention of dating again but because we’ve hooked up there’s no sexual tension anymore.
3 nice guys do finish last. I’m a nice guy at heart, but I’m cold blooded with women. They get 1 chance.
4. Most girls do appreciate their clients but you have to make them earn it before you spoil them otherwise yes you are just a trick
See them a few times for a couple hours before doing the longer dates, don’t show off your wealth from the start, I’m worth 8 figures but wear blue jeans t shirts not Armani and Gucci if they come to my house it’s literally under construction and appears like I’m living in a nightmare
Reality is I don’t want them recognize expensive watches etc and they can google my address and see my house while under construction was a 2 million dollar cash purchase but they would never no one the surface appear average treat them well and they will like you more than the rich guy trying to buy their attention who they don’t respect from the start

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[Townbizz54]

had the gall to ask for a photo in a thong I’d bought her. I just got scammed out of $500 4 days ago. It sucks but it’s part of life and the hobby.

I bought a girl 2 new lingerie sets for some shoots she was doing and she made me pay for the pictures.

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[Swytypy]

I bought a girl 2 new lingerie sets for some shoots she was doing and she made me pay for the pictures.

In my case, on a few previous occasions, she sent me pictures and even several videos of stuff I bought her or stuff she bought with gift cards I gave. She did this completely on her own without me asking and once even posted on X thanking me for being so generous, using my real first name.

She typically asks for $10 for a custom photo. So when I said I couldn’t wait for a picture of her in the thong I bought her, I didn’t think anything of it. But apparently, I’m a greedy asshole who wants something for nothing.

Being lumped into a category of men who legitimately give her zero and ask for something in return when I’d given her several hundreds of dollars worth of free gifts and paid her thousands of dollars to spend a couple of hours with her was pretty shitty of her. But it’s her loss. Because I would’ve spent thousands more and booked another couple of hours with her when she comes back to New York next month, but now I won’t.

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[oc.businessman.33]

It happens to the best of us.

I'm more concerned about your good bye statement. Just know you're not alone. We have all experienced what you have. Take it as a lesson learned.

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[trystagency]

If over the course of your time with this girl you spent less than 10K then your fine.
Over the Corse of my time in the business I have bought more than 3 cars, paid rents for many different ladies
bought cell phones, 3 different boob jobs, helped girls move across the country, airline tickets, personal loans and countless other things
your just a guy and your earning your strips...
so chin up

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[Townbizz54]

If over the course of your time with this girl you spent less than 10K then your fine.
Over the Corse of my time in the business I have bought more than 3 cars, paid rents for many different ladies
bought cell phones, 3 different boob jobs, helped girls move across the country, airline tickets, personal loans and countless other things
your just a guy and your earning your strips...
so chin up

When’s summers boob job happening? Gotta say good buy to the old ones lol

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[trystagency]

When’s summers boob job happening? Gotta say good buy to the old ones lol

July so you best see her before then

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[dob18]

Brother - you're now part of an exclusive club. We're fucking human and we make dumb decisions based on all kinds of stimuli. I stupidly decided to check my cashapp the other day and realized all the 'little things' I had sent a provider added the fuck up lol. I was pissed for a little while for blowing well over 10k but then realized fuck it. As long as you are able to realize you did it for a reason (being kind, wanting companionship, maybe just wanting to see some tits while you're at work, whatever) and also realized that it's a habit that shouldn't continue you're fine. The only reason to beat yourself up is after this clarity you just keep on going.

Chin up my man! We've all been there in one form or another. At least this way you can say you blew it on a pornstar, etc... rather than some rando that you can't even have bragging rights to.

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[Swytypy]

July so you best see her before then

I’m trying to!!!!!

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[Townbizz54]

I’m trying to!!!!!

DO IT. She’s on the must see list of current providers if you haven’t seen her

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[Swytypy]

DO IT. She’s on the must see list of current providers if you haven’t seen her

She’s supposed to come to NYC next month. I’m waiting for details.

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[Townbizz54]

She’s supposed to come to NYC next month. I’m waiting for details.

Make it happen lol

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