Alright, I messed up bad. My wife saw texts between me and a provider—just basic stuff about scheduling a time while she was going to be out. She took it a step further, googled the number, found a tryst ad, and now I’m getting kicked out of the apartment.
She’s not stupid. She knows exactly what this looks like. But I need to figure out what to say to her that gives me a chance to fix things without admitting to some full-blown addiction or making things worse. I wasn’t actually with anyone—just talking, just considering.
What’s the move here? Do I go full damage control, claim it was just curiosity, a dumb moment of weakness? Do I come clean to a degree but not all the way? Has anyone here been through something similar and managed to smooth things over?
I know a lot of you have juggled this lifestyle and relationships—so any advice on what to say (or NOT say) would be appreciated. Right now, I just need a way to frame this so my marriage isn’t totally over.
Any help would mean a lot.
She’s not stupid. She knows exactly what this looks like. But I need to figure out what to say to her that gives me a chance to fix things without admitting to some full-blown addiction or making things worse. I wasn’t actually with anyone—just talking, just considering.
What’s the move here? Do I go full damage control, claim it was just curiosity, a dumb moment of weakness? Do I come clean to a degree but not all the way? Has anyone here been through something similar and managed to smooth things over?
I know a lot of you have juggled this lifestyle and relationships—so any advice on what to say (or NOT say) would be appreciated. Right now, I just need a way to frame this so my marriage isn’t totally over.
Any help would mean a lot.
