I don’t like throwing around the word stupid. Not so much for the meaning of the word, but more for the disrespect that comes with it. So when a friend sent me this post by a sex worker, and I read it, stupid was the first word that came to mind. Then I saw the same post floating around all over the place, with others basically saying the same thing. The way this SWer explains herself while degrading clients just hits a nerve with me. I want to be understanding, because whenever allegations are brought up people tend to say a lot of unnecessary things, but this one really seems to take the cake.
So, this SWer going by the name Mean Maxine had something to say about male performers. Her exact words are above, stating that male performers are no better than clients who record—saying that we use women as tools to benefit in the industry or the hobby, so to speak. A number of SWers came to the defense of male performers, while others tried creating solutions on how things could be better. Everything from collaborations requiring a fee for male performers to people getting shut down for defending them showed up in this post. As chaotic as all of this was, it isn’t my place to speak on it. I’m not in that world, so my opinion doesn’t really matter. When I really think about it, I don’t care. There were plenty of people defending male performers, and at this point in the industry some do need defending—but there wasn’t one person defending us.
I get that we’re at the bottom of the totem pole. The industry knows clients exist but would rather stay oblivious to anything we do, whether it’s writing reviews or commenting on social media posts. There are some PS providers who acknowledge and understand that this isn’t always just about sex. Is sex a big part of it? Fuck yeah. You want to live out a sexual fantasy with someone you admire and are genuinely attracted to. However, I think it’s more than just sex for a lot of us here. Many of us have been able to build lasting relationships with PS providers something I don’t believe would happen unless those women truly felt comfortable. Beig able to share first names among a plethora of personal acts that can only be done between two people with mutual respect for one another.
For this woman to use us as an example disgusts me. Yes, we get a bad rep because there are some clients out there who can be dangerous, both physically and emotionally. A lot of us think we’re God’s gift to the world to these women, when in reality we’re no different than the last man she saw. So is it surprising that we’re used in this example? No. But just like some male performers, there are also clients who aren’t the best. To say that one male performer being bad somehow extends to everyone who collaborates with women is redundant and the exact same logic applies to clients.
I’m not trying to attack this woman. I just think that with everything that’s happened, everyone wants to get their say. There are some comments out there that make sense, and there are others that really should have been thought through before being posted on the internet. This is one of those things she could have kept to herself.
So, this SWer going by the name Mean Maxine had something to say about male performers. Her exact words are above, stating that male performers are no better than clients who record—saying that we use women as tools to benefit in the industry or the hobby, so to speak. A number of SWers came to the defense of male performers, while others tried creating solutions on how things could be better. Everything from collaborations requiring a fee for male performers to people getting shut down for defending them showed up in this post. As chaotic as all of this was, it isn’t my place to speak on it. I’m not in that world, so my opinion doesn’t really matter. When I really think about it, I don’t care. There were plenty of people defending male performers, and at this point in the industry some do need defending—but there wasn’t one person defending us.
I get that we’re at the bottom of the totem pole. The industry knows clients exist but would rather stay oblivious to anything we do, whether it’s writing reviews or commenting on social media posts. There are some PS providers who acknowledge and understand that this isn’t always just about sex. Is sex a big part of it? Fuck yeah. You want to live out a sexual fantasy with someone you admire and are genuinely attracted to. However, I think it’s more than just sex for a lot of us here. Many of us have been able to build lasting relationships with PS providers something I don’t believe would happen unless those women truly felt comfortable. Beig able to share first names among a plethora of personal acts that can only be done between two people with mutual respect for one another.
For this woman to use us as an example disgusts me. Yes, we get a bad rep because there are some clients out there who can be dangerous, both physically and emotionally. A lot of us think we’re God’s gift to the world to these women, when in reality we’re no different than the last man she saw. So is it surprising that we’re used in this example? No. But just like some male performers, there are also clients who aren’t the best. To say that one male performer being bad somehow extends to everyone who collaborates with women is redundant and the exact same logic applies to clients.
I’m not trying to attack this woman. I just think that with everything that’s happened, everyone wants to get their say. There are some comments out there that make sense, and there are others that really should have been thought through before being posted on the internet. This is one of those things she could have kept to herself.
