The thought came to me last night, and I figured—why not flip the script and write a post about it? It might be interesting and maybe even insightful for any gentleman who is either already in one, or considering entering, such an arrangement.
So, the bottom line: do I, or have I ever, regretted getting into a sugar relationship? The short answer is
no. But there are many facets to it.
One: It’s way easier to just have an ATF, and that can definitely be cheaper. From a financial perspective? Yes, I regret it somewhat. But then again, money can always be earned again—time, however, cannot.
Two: It’s an emotional roller coaster. Having an SB is like being strapped into a 24/7 emotional ride. You constantly think—or at least I did for a very long time—“Hmm, I wonder what she’s doing now. I’d better text her. Is she with other men? I should check up on her.” That mindset was the first thing that led me to “break up” with my then-SB for about a year before eventually hitting her up again. So here’s some advice: don’t get into any form of sugar relationship if you’re an emotionally charged guy.
Three: You
will go through hurdles and hardships. I haven’t heard of a single gentleman who has been in this kind of arrangement and not hit at least one tough period with his sugar babe.
Four: The girls will get tired of “small talk” texts. Stray away from sending messages like “How are you, babe?” Chances are, you’ll be left on read 90% of the time. Instead, write messages with substance. Give her something to actually engage with.
Five (and final): You have to take control of the sugar relationship. If I had to do it all over again, that would be my number one adjustment. Don’t take shit, know your worth, and don’t let yourself be walked over. Sure, the girl may seem to hold the power because she has the pussy, but you have the cash—and at the end of the day, that’s what makes the whole thing possible. Even if only by a smudge, cash beats pussy - every time.
