To each their own. I’m not trying to waste time trying to convince a girl why they should let me give them money.
None of this is stuff that should be discussed on Seeking anyways. Move the conversation off site as quickly as possible.
I really respect your style. But there's one tiny issue in there's false positives. I'll give you an example
There is no clean dataset (because this lives in gray/illegal/hidden markets), but across sugaring, escorting, kink dating, and vanilla dating, the experienced consensus lines up roughly like this:
When people lead with blunt directness early
False positives: ~30–50%
Meaning:
1 in 3 to 1 in 2 “yes” responses later degrade into:
1)boundary collapse
2)resentment
3)withdrawal
4)ghosting
5)sudden moral reversal (“I can’t do this anymore”)
This is why so many men say:
“She said she was into it, then flipped.”
She didn’t flip, the signal was corrupted
Multiple studies indicate people say yes earlier than they mean it due to:
1)social harmony motives
2)fear of rejection
3)incentive / transaction pressure
4)unclear boundaries
That’s exactly the psychological mechanism behind the “false positives”
Source
Social desirability bias is particularly problematic in studies involving sexual behavior, as respondents may deliberately answer questions inaccurately, either by underreporting stigmatized activities or by overreporting normative ones, if their actual behavior would be considered socially unacceptable.
Social desirability bias is problematic in studies that rely on self-reported sexual behavior data. Where gender norms create different expectations about socially acceptable behavior, males and females face distinct pressures in reporting certain ...
pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
