One of the first escorts I ever saw reached out to me about a visit to NY, and I paid a 50% deposit. Then she had some emergency come up and had to cancel the trip, and refunded my deposit. Not too long after that, she retired from both escorting and porn, and became VERY vocal on social media about how toxic SW had been for her.
She reached out to me a few months later to see if I wanted to set up a date, but I didn't reply. I didn't want to get in the middle of a mental health crisis or something. I hope she's doing OK. She still hangs out with some SWers, so I don't think she has a problem with it, just not right for her. Still wish I could have seen her a second time.