A mutual beneficial relationship? (Need advice)

[Sexaddict]

I’ve almost made up my mind but i would love to hear your guys take on things.

So, as you all know i used to have a SB. I’ve written about her on here...

I’ve almost made up my mind but i would love to hear your guys take on things.

So, as you all know i used to have a SB. I’ve written about her on here about a dozen times.

To sum up the story, i met her in early 2019 as she was working in Denmark.
I visited her several times in her home country after that.
Things went great until the start of 2022. We got sick of eachother. Words were exchanged and we went seperate ways.

7 months after that i messaged her on her birthday and we were actually speaking again on good term… for a few weeks, then we went our seperate ways again, both swearing that our paths would never cross again.
I was actually very firm on the idea.

A year passed and i haven’t sent one single Message to her. Then, we passed over to 2024.
One evening i visited Deity Bastet, a romanian escort, i remember it vividly.
The session was BAD with a Capital B but after it was over, me and deity spoke a little about the whole subject and setup of sugarbabe/sugardaddy relationship.

That subject led to me bringing up the girl that i had known for 3 years. I told her the story even though she didn’t give a shit (and why would she. I know that. But it gave me some comfort talking about it with a person i didn’t know for once.

Deity said, in her broken english, “why don’t you contact her?”.
Well, i can’t do that, i thought.
Although knowing deep down that i would not be strong enough to withstand the urge to message her.

I sat on Deitys bed as i sent the message on WhatsApp. We didn’t speak for over a year and a half, so i didn’t know what to expect.

My time with Deity came to an end and we said goodbye.

As soon as Deity had closed the door behind me, i heard a sound. It was the sound you hear whenever someone messages you on WhatsApp.
I couldn’t contain my excitement. I took out my phone and there it was, the girl in question has actually messaged me back and it wasn’t even an “angry” message. She actually asked me how i was doing with a smiley at the end of the message.

I was fairly happy that she wrote back.

So, here we are, the date is April the 29th 2024, i have the oppourtunity to start a “relationship” or friendship, if you can call it that, with her again.

I’ve grown tremendously as a person so i wouldn’t get easily emotional attached again.
But, there is always the possibility that it will end the same way as last time where i was heartbroken actually. I know i shouldn’t be, but i couldn’t help it.

I know that she’s in it for the money it would bring, the shopping sprees, the monthly “pocket money”, but i would not be ready for that in the short term.

I would also not be ready to “pay her for her time” until we would have met at least a few times to talk things through.

If you were in my shoes, would you start up a “relationship” again?

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[Swytypy]

I’m personally the type of person who lets himself get hurt emotionally as an end result, knowing full well it’ll happen, as long as there’s a hope of something wonderful happening in between. So the advice from that side of me is “run to her”. My advice as a sane, rational person who knows how many times I’ve let myself get hurt like that is “run away and don’t message her again”. So maybe I'm not the best person to offer advice...

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[DAVES]

You're vague as hell, but This is fucking stupid and if you do it, you're a simp. Walk away. You said yourself you want. Variety so why do this?? Also-

So, as you all know i used to have a SB. I’ve written about her on here about a dozen times.

No, we don't all know...we're not here following your every single exploit...We're here for the girls and we have lives outside of this...

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[Swytypy]

You're vague as hell, but This is fucking stupid and if you do it, you're a simp. Walk away. You said yourself you want. Variety so why do this?? Also-

No, we don't all know...we're not here following your every single exploit...We're here for the girls and we have lives outside of this...

I’m not here for the girls. I’m verified with 3 agencies for the girls. I’m here for the reviews, guidance, advice, expertise and camaraderie with other guys about our adventures. No need to insult anyone just because they’re talking to guys who have different goals and experiences than you do.

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[zm7000]

Hey artist formally known as Pornlover...I feel you and its cool you reconnected with her and all that. I would leave it there though. To me it sounds like you got the feels and that isnt really a healthy SB relationship for you. Just being honest.

You seem to want more from it than just a SB you want shit to be "real." You said: "I would also not be ready to “pay her for her time” until we would have met at least a few times to talk things through." That to me is a big red flag that you want more out of this and you are only gonna get hurt when she has to go see another client or puts you off. Trust me I have some experience in this area. Unless she explicitly says I want this to be a relationship thing, there is regular communication, and you are no longer a client/seen as a money bag you should back away.

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[nighthawkb]

If you think you can keep the distance for not getting too emotional, it is ok.
Talk about and you can see whereever it goes.
My experience is that it will never be as the first time.
So it is better to put your effort/money in another girl.

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[Sexaddict]

You're vague as hell, but This is fucking stupid and if you do it, you're a simp. Walk away. You said yourself you want. Variety so why do this?? Also-

No, we don't all know...we're not here following your every single exploit...We're here for the girls and we have lives outside of this...

Someone pissed in your milk this morning or just got out of bed the wrong way?

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[HolyShitsHim]

I’ve almost made up my mind but i would love to hear your guys take on things.

So, as you all know i used to have a SB. I’ve written about her on here about a dozen times.

To sum up the story, i met her in early 2019 as she was working in Denmark.
I visited her several times in her home country after that.
Things went great until the start of 2022. We got sick of eachother. Words were exchanged and we went seperate ways.

7 months after that i messaged her on her birthday and we were actually speaking again on good term… for a few weeks, then we went our seperate ways again, both swearing that our paths would never cross again.
I was actually very firm on the idea.

A year passed and i haven’t sent one single Message to her. Then, we passed over to 2024.
One evening i visited Deity Bastet, a romanian escort, i remember it vividly.
The session was BAD with a Capital B but after it was over, me and deity spoke a little about the whole subject and setup of sugarbabe/sugardaddy relationship.

That subject led to me bringing up the girl that i had known for 3 years. I told her the story even though she didn’t give a shit (and why would she. I know that. But it gave me some comfort talking about it with a person i didn’t know for once.

Deity said, in her broken english, “why don’t you contact her?”.
Well, i can’t do that, i thought.
Although knowing deep down that i would not be strong enough to withstand the urge to message her.

I sat on Deitys bed as i sent the message on WhatsApp. We didn’t speak for over a year and a half, so i didn’t know what to expect.

My time with Deity came to an end and we said goodbye.

As soon as Deity had closed the door behind me, i heard a sound. It was the sound you hear whenever someone messages you on WhatsApp.
I couldn’t contain my excitement. I took out my phone and there it was, the girl in question has actually messaged me back and it wasn’t even an “angry” message. She actually asked me how i was doing with a smiley at the end of the message.

I was fairly happy that she wrote back.

So, here we are, the date is April the 29th 2024, i have the oppourtunity to start a “relationship” or friendship, if you can call it that, with her again.

I’ve grown tremendously as a person so i wouldn’t get easily emotional attached again.
But, there is always the possibility that it will end the same way as last time where i was heartbroken actually. I know i shouldn’t be, but i couldn’t help it.

I know that she’s in it for the money it would bring, the shopping sprees, the monthly “pocket money”, but i would not be ready for that in the short term.

I would also not be ready to “pay her for her time” until we would have met at least a few times to talk things through.

If you were in my shoes, would you start up a “relationship” again?

Yes it benefits you both. You help her with her bills and she helps you with your needs.
Plus it might cut down on your spending with other providers when you know your SG would definitely please you.
I too have a SB benefit us both. I help her with some of her bills and she helps me with my needs. I do set a rule for her. She sees no one else beside me.

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[Joel Goodson]

Go for it.... you obviously want to connect with her again.

And she answered you so she does too.

Go with your gut. You might have a very cool experience this time around. Your connection might be different.

It might be a fling, or enduring, but who cares.... you only come around once man.

Take it slow but go for it.

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