Every so often, I like to revisit this topic, especially for newbies, to ensure everyone understands what comes with booking a provider. Recently, a few...
Every so often, I like to revisit this topic, especially for newbies, to ensure everyone understands what comes with booking a provider. Recently, a few providers have had to let go of long-time regulars. From what I’ve gathered, providers typically do this for a few key reasons: the most significant being concerns for their safety, and the other being boundaries being crossed. When this happens, some clients find themselves kicked to the curb like lost puppies without fully realizing why.
Boundaries are without a doubt something many of us don’t consciously account for when booking a provider. Especially when booking a PS, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking they don’t have any boundaries, simply because of their profession. There's a tendency to forget that, even though they're sex workers, they are still human. This thought process isn’t exactly normal, but it’s something many of us have been conditioned to believe after seeing providers on our laptops and phones. This often leads to a sense of overfamiliarity—whether you're meeting them for the first time or the fiftieth.
One of the providers in question recently spoke out about two of her clients who had become too entitled. Her post read:
"I just had to fire two regulars. They got too comfortable and felt entitled to special treatment when they only paid the bare minimum and weren’t generous… I’m generous with my time, and it’s always taken for granted. Sometimes, we have to let doors close so better ones can open!"
In my opinion, no amount of money can make someone want to lower their boundaries. Regardless of how much this provider was being paid, I don’t believe it would have ever been enough. I want to say this is partly on her, but, in all honesty, it’s mostly on the clients.
I get it—providers are there to create a fantasy for us, and sometimes that fantasy can blur the lines between what’s real and what’s not. Some clients start to believe that these women are there for something more than just transactional companionship. In this case, the provider mentioned that these clients became too comfortable, which likely stemmed from a breakdown in boundaries that should have stayed intact. Perhaps these clients thought that, because of their history with her and the money they were paying, they were entitled to more, but in reality, it’s never enough to justify crossing those lines.
We have to remember that we’re paying for an escape from reality—not so much an illusion but more like a mirage. The fantasy of having your dream girl in front of you is tempting, but she’s still a real person, and you must respect her boundaries. That’s the only way to stay in this hobby long-term. The moment you forget that is the moment you get too comfortable, and when you get too comfortable in a dream, reality is right there to snap you back. That’s exactly what happened to these two gentlemen.
