Were Boundaries Pushed or No?

[king-sama4u2nv]

I'm sure some of us have stumbled across this screenshot of a clients...

I'm sure some of us have stumbled across this screenshot of a clients comment on TER. This screenshot has been circulating over SwerX with a lot of people giving their opinion on the matter. When I read this I was confused, then astonished, and then a little confused again. As much as I'm trying to see this from the clients point of view, and I am partially, I can't help but think this client my just be a little uneducated on things. If not that, then very hazy on how this all works. This honestly makes me happy we aren't as open as we use to be.

I've read this screenshot at least four or five times. Essentially, the client has paid for 4 days with a Europe based provider that he's seen before. I was actually impressed with the renting of a helicopter as well as the jewelry he already got her. You don't do any of that for just anyone. Anyway, with all this planned he's told that the provider will be seeing clients before they're scheduled to see each other which he has a problem with. Companions are eating this up dissecting every bit of what he said here as well as questioning his boundaries as a client, but I think it might be more to it then that.

There is truly on one reason a client would feel this way about a provider. I don't know who the provider or the client is nor do I know their relationship, but no one is feeling this way or demanding what this client is demanding unless BB is involved. When a client books a FMTY they primarily believe that provider is flying to them for the soul purpose of seeing them. With four days booked of that providers time whatever happens in that timeframe is between to consenting adults. However, whatever happens prior to or after that engagement has jack shit to do with us which includes who providers are with. I think BB is the only reason I believe this client would cross the boundary he's crossing.

This is just my opinion. regardless of what really is going on here as clients I don't think we should be pushing boundaries like this. I hope this guy didn't lose his booking with this screenshot circulating. The best thing might be to end it if I'm being honest. At this point the amount of awkwardness in those four days would be solid enough to cut with a knife.

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[AFlawedMind]

See, I would also have an issue with this scenario, but for an entirely different reason — I don’t want to pay for airfare for a FMTY where in actuality now it’s a lot cheaper for her to fly to me and she’s pocketing the difference (I’ve had this situation happen before). I (in this context) generally don’t like paying more for things that are ostensibly only for my benefit and then finding out other clients will as well (unless that’s agreed to). Who she sees is none of my concern, and OP seems to be having an issue with the fantasy breaking and he is insecure or he really wants to do BB — either way he seems to have unrealistic expectations, perhaps not realizing that he’s paying for a portion of her time and not exclusivity.

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[king-sama4u2nv]

See, I would also have an issue with this scenario, but for an entirely different reason — I don’t want to pay for airfare for a FMTY where in actuality now it’s a lot cheaper for her to fly to me and she’s pocketing the difference (I’ve had this situation happen before). I (in this context) generally don’t like paying more for things that are ostensibly only for my benefit and then finding out other clients will as well (unless that’s agreed to). Who she sees is none of my concern, and OP seems to be having an issue with the fantasy breaking and he is insecure or he really wants to do BB — either way he seems to have unrealistic expectations, perhaps not realizing that he’s paying for a portion of her time and not exclusivity.

Right! Though that exclusivity doesn't really kick in until the day of the session. If anything he could see this as more of a sponsored tour more then a FMTY. As much as a fantasy as it could be the reality of it all is the client isn't special and shouldn't believe he is. At least not enough to object to her doing what she wants during the off the time. Again, this could be for BB reasons which for a helicopter and jewelry it looks as if that could be part of it.

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

Can’t control a girls time you don’t pay for. Take the L and move on without her.

Whining about paying for airfare and multiday bookings is rich guy problems I don’t give a single fuck about.

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[thanatosues]

I'd personally have a bit of an issue with it, he paid for the airfare and travel arrangements, he booked in advance with the fantasy of flying out this European beauty for an American adventure with him. You can't control what she's doing outside of those days but it would destroy the fantasy from my perspective to have a girl turn around and say "oh actually I'm just touring the whole time leading up to our date".

Also there's the paying for the benefits of other clients aspect, FMTYs are FMTYs, they're not sponsored tours.

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

that’s why it’s a fantasy to think you’d have any exclusivity unless it’s clearly arranged.

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[AFlawedMind]

Right! Though that exclusivity doesn't really kick in until the day of the session. If anything he could see this as more of a sponsored tour more then a FMTY. As much as a fantasy as it could be the reality of it all is the client isn't special and shouldn't believe he is. At least not enough to object to her doing what she wants during the off the time. Again, this could be for BB reasons which for a helicopter and jewelry it looks as if that could be part of it.

My point, as @thanatosues reiterated, is that he paid for a FMTY and not the sponsored tour it’s become. The financial aspect is the worthy complaint — I agree with you that who she’s seeing outside of the session in and of itself is not. It’s not reasonable to expect her to not see other people, but it is reasonable to expect to not use his money to subsidize that.

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