Correct.
So, did you expect your OnlyFans to blow up the way it did when you first started it?
No, I didn't think it was gonna turn into what it did, honestly. My big thing was it was kinky fun for us. When my husband told me, oh, hey, we have X number of followers, I was like, what? Are you kidding me? That many people wanna see me naked, okay. I didn't show my face initially either.
King: Oh!
Lt. Bella: So, then it just kind of kept growing and I was like, okay. I never expected it to be what it became.
King: So, you never showed your face?
Lt. Bella: Not for the first year. I think it was probably about a year before I showed my face.
King: That's when everything kind of went downhill.
So becoming an international story, becoming a now porn star, was that worth losing your LE career?
I would say yes and I'll tell you the reason why. I did not realize at the time how much that career was taking a toll on me. I also didn't realize how unwell I truly was until all of this happened. More or less, I think it kind of forced my hand to get the therapy treatment that I needed and it also kind of took that decision away from me where I wasn't sure what I wanted to do exactly leading up to the discovery. So, once that decision was made for me, it allowed me the opportunity to embrace it and then just move on with my life if that makes sense at all.
King: That makes sense. I would imagine your LE job was a little bit more stressful than the content creating.
Lt. Bella: Yeah, a lot more stressful. I mean, I was running a jail. I had almost fifty employees. I had eighteen hundred inmates. I was doing all this through COVID. So, I think I'm truly the healthiest, both physically and mentally, I've been in probably ten years. I'm just in a way better place. I don't miss my kids' activities. I don't miss family stuff anymore. You know, I'm able to go play golf on the weekends with my friends. So, I've gotten a lot of my life back that I didn't realize I had given up.
King: That makes me really happy for you. I see the kids' activity thing.
Lt. Bella: I missed a lot, you know, and I did it for my career.
If I'm not mistaken, I might be wrong. I think one of the last mainstream shoots you did was for Scoreland. Am I right?
Yeah. I shot with them last week or two weeks ago.
Do you feel any different from shooting mainstream to your own content?
Oh, for sure. For sure. The first time I shot professionally, of course, I was super nervous. You worry, how's it going to go over? You don't know. From the first time I shot fourteen months ago to shooting now It's been a completely different experience. I absolutely love it still, just more.
King: Okay. Sounds like you really, really love your new career.
Lt. Bella: I do. How could I not love it.
I believe I read somewhere, what you and your husband do online isn't something new. You're just filming now, correct?
Lt. Bella: Yeah. I mean, we had always taken photos and videos together. Now, I will say, not every one of our intimate encounters is filmed for my content. We do have our own personal time outside of what we do for content. You know, because we still have that part of our life. That's ours.
I believe I saw somewhere that you and your husband are in the Swinger's life. Is that right?
We are in and out of the lifestyle, yeah.
So when you became a provider, did you treat it as being inside that swinger's life, or was it something completely different?
Being a provider is completely different. It has really given me an opportunity. I've always been really good at talking to people, establishing rapport, and things like that. I really feel like it's just kind of opened up an avenue for me to do that on a different level. I've met some really amazing people. I've connected with some super awesome stories and then hearing my story allows people to open up more. I think it makes it more of a fun experience, less intimidating. I like to have fun and when I am with someone, it's about having fun. It's about escaping a little bit from reality and enjoying each other.
King: That's well said.
Lt. Bella: Yeah, you know, it's not something cheap. It's typically dinner, drinks, and it's whatever. I mean, it’s getting to know someone and I love that part.
Can I ask why you went into providing even though you're extremely popular right now on the content creator circuit?
I think it was the next best step for me. It allows me to share who I am. It allows people to realize that I am a real person. I see comments saying; I met her in person and she's exactly as she is on her videos, she's exactly as she is in her interviews. I want people to know that we all come from different walks of life. We all have different experiences. We can all come together and enjoy each other's company for a period of time. It doesn't have to have a label. It doesn't have to be anything else other than people enjoying each other. Whatever that looks like.
King: Right.
Lt. Bella: It just allows people to really realize you can have an evening with someone and it doesn't matter who you are or where you come from. Right. I mean, obviously, there's screening involved. I wanna know the whole story.
Lt. Bella: I think me being a provider lets people know they have value. That being able to spend time with me validates that value.
King: Oh! That was very well put.
Lt. Bella: Like, everyone has something to contribute to someone else. Is just figuring out what that looks like. Everyone has something to contribute to someone else. Over the course of multiple hours of going out to dinner, drinks, shopping, whatever it is, seeing new towns, new cities, whatever that looks like. I'm really easy to get along with, and you'd be really hard-pressed to be around me and not open up and laugh and have a good time and be goofy. I want them to feel like they can tell me things, and that it's going to stay confidential.
King: That's what we care about the most.
Lt. Bella: Yeah, I think people realize that I'm discreet enough, and I would never do to them what was done to me.
Are you fetish friendly?
People tell me their secrets. They feel comfortable doing that, because I'm there, l'm listening, and I'm engaged. I've been asked frequently, what's the weirdest thing someone's ever asked you to do? It's not something weird. It's somebody's interest. If somebody's fetish isn’t something that I'm interested in doing, I'm never going to shame someone over it. We all have different interests. Just because it might not be something that I'm interested in participating in doesn't make it weird, and it doesn't make it wrong.
King: Just your voice is soothing my heart right now.
Lt. Bella: Lol
What's your favorite sex position?
Doggy.
King: Now that's a first. Providers always say the same thing. I don't know what the position is called, but they're laying on their stomach, and then they have the guy from behind for better penetration. You're the first one to say doggy, and I appreciate that.
Lt. Bella: Lol
What do you do to make a client comfortable?
I just be myself. I'm just another girl that you're out having to drink with. I realize I'm “famous”, but I don't see myself that way. Something that I've always told my people when I was in LE and I live by it today; “Don't ever forget where you came from”. You know, I came from a poor family, you know, growing up on, food stamps and government aid and I've never forgotten that. I think that knowing who I am is what allows people to relate to me. So, I think knowing that when they meet me and just seeing that I am genuine, that I want to listen, ask questions, and I am fascinated by new people and their stories. I think that is what makes them comfortable.
How do you feel about providers now after working in LE prior?
You know, I have never...okay… so I take it you saw what happen this weekend, Right?
King: I did.
Lt. Bella: That's the first time I have ever been attacked in any way about my former profession in person, on-line, or over social media. I was significantly targeted based on my past career. The only ways to describe the exchanges you saw on Twitter/X is brutal and attacking.
King: Yeah, just a little.
Lt. Bella: I think what people don't realize is, I was in LE, okay, great, I’m still human and have an empathetic side. You're a provider, okay, great, you're still human. I think that's what gets lost in the minutia of all of this “You’re on this side and I’m on this side” is that we are all human. We all have feelings. Just because you might not agree with something someone did in their past, doesn't make them a bad person. It doesn't mean that they're trying to hurt people. The thing that gets lost is that I have access to a lot of resources to help, you know, girls who are sex workers now or who were sex workers. I never stopped serving. I just serve in a different capacity to a different group of people.
King: If look at this this from a client's point of view, Like, the one thing in our mind that we are scared of more than anything is basically being caught by LE for what we do and for what we enjoy. You hear the stories wondering if you're next, but regardless of that I'm enjoying myself. If it happens, it happens.
Lt. Bella: Here's the thing. I have the same risk.
King: You do.
Lt. Bella: I have the same risks you do. The thing is I got into sex work using my experience and communication to better the void that l've seen in sex work with positive impact. Whether that's outing agencies who are taking advantage of girls in the profession (ie sex work of all kinds). I can help SW’s by giving mental health resources to girls who are say, twenty two shooting porn and don't know what to do to handle all the pressures or on provider side to deal with things they experience. So, I think there just needs to be a clear delineation that I am a retired LE officer, but now a full time sex worker. I take the same risk as any other provider or client and I'm more concerned based on being a former officer.
King: Yeah. I can't imagine how you feel in a session.
Lt. Bella: Which is why I screen the way I do. Once the screening process is through and everybody's has had a conversation on the phone and feels better about things, then, you know, I think people shouldn't shy away from me based on what I used to do because I think I have a lot to offer in terms of just companionship and general company.
What do you think is the best sexual act that keeps clients repeating services with you?
I don't know that there is one because everyone is so different. I don't think that you can lump it all into one category, I have spent time with people and it's not anything sexual. It's just spending quality time together. Maybe the person I’m with doesn’t get that time with someone in their personal life. You know? I ask a lot of questions. I feel everything out, and sometimes people just want to be heard, so I listen. I listen to what their interests are, and I try to meet them. I can't meet everyone's interests, obviously, but I do try to meet them in the middle.
King: Okay. Alright. So...
Lt. Bella: I really can't say there's one specific thing that keeps people coming back because I get different responses from different people and you cater to them individually... So, you know, when I meet with someone, I do my best to make sure it's an unforgettable time.
What can turn you off about a client?
I think hygiene. I really feel that's the biggest thing. When you're meeting a provider, you need to have good hygiene. Right?
King: Of course!
Lt. Bella: Be respectful of that. Just because a provider is like, hey, why don't you jump in the shower real quick, or whatever, please don't take it personal. Also, a lot of providers have allergies so, maybe it's not that they think you have bad hygiene, it's just to make sure that whatever, you know, skincare products used or whatever aren't going to them sick and end their tour early.
Lt. Bella: So anyway, I’d say hygiene really is the biggest thing.
How does being a provider work in your marriage?
No one has ever asked me that. I think because we're so secure in our marriage and we talk about everything. Based on how secure my husband and I are, emotionally and sexually in our marriage, and how professional I am and the experience of me flying off to Miami for a few days to shoot pro or content trades It's really not a lot different. My husband is patient and understanding. Whether I'm working or providing, my husband knows I'm not running off with a client or co-talent. He knows I'm there for a certain amount of time to be in their company, whatever that looks like, fully engaged with them and then I come home to him and we fall back into our life.
King: So, basically, your marriage is so secure that no matter who you're with, at the end of the day, you're heading back to your husband.
Lt. Bella: Exactly
A year. Maybe a year.
King: A year? I have been lacking, because I did not know that.
Lt. Bella: It's not like I put it on my Twitter. I don't publicize it. I figure if people find me and they know, then that's fine. I don't need to publicize it, I guess. People do find me. I get asked frequently if it's really you. Which I don't blame people. There are people who steal my images and stuff from social media and whatever.
King: So pretty much being in those places people might second guess or it just might not be her, which means you gotta really email her to make sure, hey, is this you because..
Lt. Bella: Exactly. Plus, I'll always do a video call upfront if requested to verify it's me. Also, I do ask for a deposit because I have been burnt, sadly a couple of bad apples ruin it for the good guys. They'll go through the screening process, then I require a deposit to secure the booking. There's trust on both of our parts. I mean, I was going on a FMTY and was stood up when I got there. So, that's why I take a deposit because then at least it covers some of my travel time. If I'm flying out of state and I'm scheduled to be gone two days I still have to make it back home and eat while I'm there. I feel if you want to spend time with me, you'll understand that.
You say your verification is a little more intensive than other providers. Can you tell me what vour process is?
I think my verification methods are pretty much in line with other companions. I have to ensure my safety and know who I'm with. My screening process typically involves provider references, which I always do verify them. If you don't have provider references, which most of the people I've seen are new to the hobby or whatever, then I do ask for a selfie of you holding your driver's license so I can see who you are. I do ask for a few other things as well, just to make sure that your story is consistent, you know?
King: Right, you are who you say you are.
Lt. Bella: I can also be a good reference if someone chooses to see another provider, which doesn’t hurt my feelings. You know, if they're like, "Hey, can I use you as a reference?" I'm like, "Sure." You know, I'm not one of those girls who's like, "No, you can't see someone else, and I'm not going to give you a reference."
King: That happens so much.
Lt. Bella: Yeah. Now, if you want to try someone else out, knock yourself out, but you're going to come back for more.
King: Lol
So you've been doing this for a year. Is there anyone that you would or have enjoyed a duos experience with?
No, I get asked a lot. I think that having to pay for both providers packages in order to make that happen is somewhat of a deterrent. I do have some girls that I can work with, but typically, what happens is once the rates are discussed, everyone's like, "Oh, okay. Well, I'll just try you and maybe see about that next time."
King: Oh, okay. So the packages can sometimes be a bit high for clients, which leads them to decide to book just one of you instead of both.
Lt. Bella: Yeah, because the other girl will also charge for her packages.
King: That makes sense. It's a duo's experience, so clients need to ensure they have the budget for it.
Lt. Bella: I have a best friend in the industry, and her and I would make a great team together. But, you know, she has her packages, and I have mine.
How much longer do you plan on providing?
I don't have a set end date for how long continue to provide. I think as long as I'm enjoying it, and it's working for our marriage I’m in. I'm still young.
King: I promise you no ones going to say no, so you're going to be doing this for awhile in my opinion.
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