So, the newish guy @raodgers798 post has been in my head. His post about being blocked by not one but two different providers is a little nerve-racking, because from a client’s point of view he didn’t do much wrong. We’ve all given our two cents on the matter since Rao wanted to see where he went wrong in contacting, and to be honest, as a newcomer this could have happened to any of us. Still, I thought it’d be best to make sure other newcomers don’t make a simple mistake like this, since it’s very possible to fall into.
First off, from Rao’s explanation he did just about everything right. He got in contact with his provider and above all, kept it respectful. There was no dilly-dallying in the beginning: he was quoted the rate and kept things moving. Where all of us agreed was that he wasn’t ready to book when he contacted the providers. This really isn’t uncommon we all did this when starting out. Back then it was a little easier since providers were more lenient with us before they gave us a “fuck you” or “goodbye, you aren’t serious.” Hot damn if I don’t miss those Backpage days. Fuck!!!
Anyway, this was before blocking and blacklisting became universal. I don’t believe what happened to Rao was something worth being blocked over, but it’s not our decision it’s up to each provider to decide what’s block-worthy.
Not being ready to book is pretty common for newbies. We eventually learn that unless you’re ready to book, don’t contact a provider. If you do reach out these days just trying to find a rate, test what they offer, or ask when they’re coming to your city, it’s often looked at as a waste of their time. A lot of those questions can usually be answered with some research. Depending on the provider, they may have a personal website or be under an agency that already lists their rates, services, and tour schedules.
Although, if you look at who Rao was speaking with, contacting and asking these questions might’ve been the only way to know anything but that’s neither here nor there.
We all gave our opinions to help Rao. I agreed with @jdawgwitit that you should know exactly what you want before contacting a provider, and ideally keep it within two messages (though I’d argue three). @hibachi67 said it could just be the provider’s personality, which is very true. @connman pointed out some providers are strictly business and just want to get what they need and move on. I find that a little unattractive and a mood killer, but you’re going to run into some like that. Finally, @oc.businessman.33 gave a solid template that could make encounters like this a lot smoother straight to the point with nothing extra needed.
Every one of these opinions is valid and worth noting before you reach out to a provider. Even though the provider themselves is the biggest variable in any booking, keeping these things in mind will help you way more than it will hurt you.
None of this is to downplay or say Rao was wrong. This is just another lesson we all have to learn and overcome in order to enjoy ourselves more in the hobby we love. Hopefully, this helps the next person before making contact, avoiding any kind of misstep altogether.
First off, from Rao’s explanation he did just about everything right. He got in contact with his provider and above all, kept it respectful. There was no dilly-dallying in the beginning: he was quoted the rate and kept things moving. Where all of us agreed was that he wasn’t ready to book when he contacted the providers. This really isn’t uncommon we all did this when starting out. Back then it was a little easier since providers were more lenient with us before they gave us a “fuck you” or “goodbye, you aren’t serious.” Hot damn if I don’t miss those Backpage days. Fuck!!!
Anyway, this was before blocking and blacklisting became universal. I don’t believe what happened to Rao was something worth being blocked over, but it’s not our decision it’s up to each provider to decide what’s block-worthy.
Not being ready to book is pretty common for newbies. We eventually learn that unless you’re ready to book, don’t contact a provider. If you do reach out these days just trying to find a rate, test what they offer, or ask when they’re coming to your city, it’s often looked at as a waste of their time. A lot of those questions can usually be answered with some research. Depending on the provider, they may have a personal website or be under an agency that already lists their rates, services, and tour schedules.
Although, if you look at who Rao was speaking with, contacting and asking these questions might’ve been the only way to know anything but that’s neither here nor there.
We all gave our opinions to help Rao. I agreed with @jdawgwitit that you should know exactly what you want before contacting a provider, and ideally keep it within two messages (though I’d argue three). @hibachi67 said it could just be the provider’s personality, which is very true. @connman pointed out some providers are strictly business and just want to get what they need and move on. I find that a little unattractive and a mood killer, but you’re going to run into some like that. Finally, @oc.businessman.33 gave a solid template that could make encounters like this a lot smoother straight to the point with nothing extra needed.
Every one of these opinions is valid and worth noting before you reach out to a provider. Even though the provider themselves is the biggest variable in any booking, keeping these things in mind will help you way more than it will hurt you.
None of this is to downplay or say Rao was wrong. This is just another lesson we all have to learn and overcome in order to enjoy ourselves more in the hobby we love. Hopefully, this helps the next person before making contact, avoiding any kind of misstep altogether.
