Ok don’t get sensitive I’m go on a rant here.
I’m gonna tell you all how I became “mr insensitive”
You are never going to find love in a strip clib with an escorts or by meeting a porn star.
This is a business transaction. Girl in this industry are literally trying to get you to give you as much money as you possibly can.
Hookers strippers expects sugar babies pornstars they are all the same. It is there job to get your money.
Strippers give the illusion of something more could happen … and usually does if you tip them,
Hookers and escorts will do more for extra cash
Sugar babies will be extra nice when you buy her the Louis Vuitton purse
Pornstars will make all your dreams come true.
It is business for them. You need to keep it business for you. There is no gray area . There is no what if. There is no maybe someday when she leaves the industry. It’s not fucking happening
In 2009 ish i was 23 I met a girl who was a stripper, who just tried escorting with a great little Bay Area agency called kissable cuties. I walked out of that knowing I was in trouble being I liked that girl.
We were the same age, and a couple months later we ran into each out in the bars one night. We began dating.
Eventually lived around 2010 we together and then I brought her to Vegas with me for a work convention, knew the promotion and responsibilities I was about to get within my family’s pharmacy business,
we had just had an armed robbery my grandpa was retiring my and my parents walked away I was becoming the manager and head pharmacist. This was before I was involved in real estate. I was a kid working for his family’s selling drugs on the side to my girlfriend’s friends. I was an idiot.
We had a great life. We had lots of cash coming in. Took trips wherever we wanted every weekends I had a hot girlfriend it was awesome. Before the Vegas trip my dad told he know what I was doing taking things and selling them on the side. Told me it was time to grown up and stop being stupid.
So we go on a Vegas trip and it was fine enough but little things kept happening. We wound up being upgraded to a sick penthouse decided to spend our last night going to a strip club and just relax the next day at a pool party then go home. At the strip club she wanted to pull the stripper and bring her back to the hotel. I fumbled my words. My girl went back to the room, I waited too long to go after her.
By the time I got to the hotel we had a 4 hour screaming match eventually I calm her down . Then I make a joke about a threesome. She gets up leaves. Flys home. Gets her shit from our place. Says she needs space. I have her a week. She asks for more…long story short I never saw her again.
The fight started because I told her I was going to stop selling drugs, asked her to stop escorting. Told her I’d figure out how to keep the lifestyle going.
After then I went even harder selling drugs so I could make more money and prove to her how wrong she was and eventually got arrested and lost everything pretty much.
When I got out of jail. My family gave me tough love and fired me and said to figure it out so I got a job remodeling houses got my shit together. Got back in my family’s good graces helped close the business and moved on with my new career. I had a pharmacy degree and I couldn’t use it. And had to figure things out. (I did, you always do)
In 2013 I was bartending and working construction and I met a stripper and she and I started dating and she was living in house writhing 2 weeks. She never knew of my past. I was completely removed for my shady former lifestyle, she had a drug problem and it kept getting worse every week. We broke up got back together broke up got back together. I vividly remembered sitting in my backyard by the fire 4th of July weekend 2014 I asked why don’t you just escort we both know you’re doing things with the clients anyway just make it official and stay safe. I set her up with kissable cuties and we seemed to be on the right track. But she was cheating on me with her ex the whole time.
The day we broke up for good, her dad and I were watching a raider game, he looked at me and said, “you’re a good man, what’s going on with my daughter?” I didn’t tell him she was escorting. But I told him the drugs have gotten really bad. We got her into rehab and she’s doing fine today but have chosen to never speak with her again after finding out that she was seeing me and her ex at the same time for about 3 months.
I moved to Montana. And went back to school got a construction management degree, started building my empire with super cheap real estate in a small Town
Around 2016 I was arrested again with a small 2 ounce Bag of weed. Do Tommy history the da tripped to get me for trafficking with the intent to sell and give me a 5 year prison sentence. I beat it but I couldn leave the state for 3 years. Had a girlfriend who doesn’t need to be mentioned, fucked it up got depressed had an injury from a car accident
Was overall kinda miserable but stayed the course for through probation and got a degree
The escort options in Montana are not great. So I started flying in different pornstars this was between 2016-early 2019. I met all the big names of that era.
I credit a few of them with getting me focused on the direction I wanna go.
What made th pornstars stick out is their mentality. Most were not traditional and experienced escorts. They were girls who built a name and were capitalizing on it making more money. I became friends with a lot of the girls in my age bracket and am still Today.
The reason I can say we’re friends is because I have never allowed my emotions back into this lifestyle. Just like the pornworld. Sex is not love. This is their job. I am a client. Period. Many porn girls had boyfriends girlfriends husband whatever. Some are single. But the point is porn and the character they created was their job. But they also have the mindset that you can be friends with your coworkers so that’s possible but they don’t love us. We are work for them.
So fact forward December 2019 infused school decided to move back to California my dad was having a hip Replacement in January, I was gonna help Around the house spend some time looking for a new ect. March1st he died. March 8th covid happened. June5th my mom was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer(she’s fine now) during that summer my aunts got my grandpa to completely fuck my non over after my dad’s passing. Early 2021 I met a girl she had more money than god because of a doctors mistake when she was a kid. I never took a cent from her I just liked the girl. I treated her right. That ended with her cheating on. After I walked away from all my bull Shit for her. I got depressed my roster of regular has spent the last 3 years fixing me.
That roster every one of them has a long term significant other. They don’t love me, maybe they have love for me, but they don’t love me. Sex is sex love is love business is business.
So that’s was a 10 year period from the Vegas break up to the last girl cheating on. I can say that it definitely moles who I am today.
I see women two ways, if you can find a good one with no baggage who is smart and makes you a better man. Lock that shit down and treart her right. Start the family you’ll be better off.
But if you’re single in your 20s and early 30s women in general are just going to slow you down and distract you And when you show them your generosity they will take it but that doesn’t mean they love you. Which will trick us into thinking they love us
Which is why I see escorts I’m not gonna fall in love with a girl I’m paying to fuck me. She’s doing a job. Now whybdoninsee pornstars? Because there 1000x better and more fun than shitty 300 of hookers who are just gonna rush though the situation. Pornstars see it as hey pay me for my time and I will give you the experience you see on video, and if you get along with them they just might say hey wanna grab lunch after the job is done…. But they are not falling in love with their clients. It’s work just like shoot a scene.
As a client seven all been there. We are out of shape, socially awkward have trouble taking to girls we don’t know. Get shy whatever it is. Beautiful woman are the most intimidating creatures on this planet. And when on give us attention it’s easy to forget that she’s just doing her job and she could very well have a family at home.
A girl I speak very highly of on her is married and and has a kid, that’s where her heart is. It’s not with me. I’m lucky enough that she is my friend but if I want to see her in person, there’s business involved simple as that, otherwise she has no interest in leaving her family. That said she’s my personal trainer and we have a business together but her family is what she does it all for. I actually envy their relationship because she is 1000%down for her husband. But she’s also a great person in general. Her porn persona and real identity are two different things 1 is her, the other is her business, I’m very lucky to have the lines blurred a little but I know exactly where I’ve stood for 7 years. I’m a client who weaseled my way into friendship status.
The reason that happened is because I have always respected the lines on her job.
So what I tell all of you is this. You need to take the emotional aspect out of mongering it’s a business simple as that. You’re not gonna fall in love cus the girl at Starbucks gave you a free scone. you work hard for you money, you’re spending it to relax, don’t add stress by catching feeling that won’t be reciprocated. Don’t jeopardize your emotions but chasing someone who isn’t interested. If you want to stick your penis inside this girl ask her rate, if you can afford it pay it and have fun. If you can’t that’s not her fault it’s not you’re don’t get upset move on or save up.
But don’t let the emotions come to ruin you because a hooker will See that and use it to her advantage then toss you aside when she’s had enough. A pornstar will look it it as a job but they also tend to be appreciative of their fans wanting to spend big money seeing them. And are usually very appreciative of that as long as you stay cool
And don’t cross the line.
You have to be emotionless. And smart with your money. When we lose our money we get emotional because we work so hard for it. It sucks when a girl takes advantage of that scams you whatever but it’s going to happen.
Stripper are gonna try to get you to get that vip
Champagne room
If you’re gonna see pd escorts fine there gonna play there games
If your gonna have a sugar baby she’s gonna try to get as big of an allowance as your willing to give her
And yes pornstars are gonna try to get you to see her again too but again after all my years I can say there’s slightly different esprit they started in porn and transition to feature dancing and escorting not starting in the escort/stripper world
But that is their job and you need to remember that.
I had a girl text me yesterday, I’ve know her a 5years , fucked her earlier this week. She’s going through it and she’s trying to by a car and she hit me up yesterday asking me to front her 2k for a down payment. No chance I’m giving it to her. And I told her just that.
My reply was simple see the screenshots there were no hard feelings sh figured it out. But ingave her 3500 this week. She can figure out the rest and she did. She texted me this morning. But if she got 2k from me I’d never see that money again. I’m not gonna say that though. There’s no point so I told isn’t just not something I do but ill See her in a few weeks no emotions no drama.
It’s hard to be emotionless. But when you can check them you can have a lot of fun in this. And when you truly treat the girls right they will treat you right.
But treating them right doesn’t mean buying their affection with your bank account, I’ve tried that it never works.
Pay there rate respect their boundaries. Treat them better than the guy who’s trying to negotiate down her rate. Don’t tip just cause, they set their prices the tip is included. Don’t send crazy deposit be insensitive to the bull shit. And when you find the diamonds hold on to them. But always remember you are paying them to give you attention.
End of rant. Sorry if it makes you sensitive that I’m damaged from 23 years of hookers and their games. Oh the story I could tell of last nights mistake. On to the next one though.
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