The one thing I hated most growing up was The View. Even before I really knew what it was about, I disliked it—mostly because it was one of those shows my mom would have on when I was home sick from school. It felt boring and meaningless to me, as many things did when I was a kid. As I got older, I started to understand what The View was actually about… and it still didn’t hold my interest. I’m clearly not their target demographic.
That said, every now and then, the show touches on a topic that grabs my attention. Not often, but enough to make me glance at the screen. This latest subject gave me a very hypocritical feeling—one I didn’t like but understood.
I think we talked a while back about a trend where husbands pay male pornstars to have sex with their wives. It was getting some attention around 2023, though don’t quote me on that. Now, the trend has its own name and is featured on a specific site: “hotwifing.”
In this segment on The View, the hosts discussed how some husbands not only pay for the encounter but also sit in the corner and watch as their wives are taken by a professional performer. That part caught me off guard. I really thought it stopped at just paying for the experience—not going full voyeur. But hey, maybe that’s just me.
One thing I know about myself? Cuckolding isn’t in the cards. I know it’s a thing in swinger circles, and I respect the guys who are into it—it just takes a different mindset. But here’s the part that stuck with me: in this hobby, if I were in a relationship, I could very easily be called a hypocrite.
On that episode, each cohost gave their take. Joy Behar opened with skepticism, calling it “nuts.” Alyssa Farah Griffin said it sounded more like something that needed therapy than exploration. And Sunny Hostin, pulling from her religious roots, simply said these couples “need God.”
I don’t necessarily agree with them—but I don’t totally disagree either. It does feel a bit extreme to go that far for your partner’s desires. But then again… what if the roles were reversed? And, if we’re being honest, in some ways, maybe they already are.
Let’s be real—some of us (maybe most of us) in this hobby are married or in relationships. This space is an outlet. A second life we indulge in. So if a significant other expressed the same interest—with transparency—what right would we have to say no? Especially knowing what we do? What if they wanted to flip the script and explore hotwifing with you? What if they encouraged it?
It's a lot to sit with. As someone who was raised to see both sides of every issue, I can’t look at this as just black and white. It’s definitely a gray area. I know I could never see myself being a cuckold—but if I had a partner and she wanted to see a pornstar, would I stop her? Honestly… probably not. It would depend on a lot, but I can't say I'd feel right denying her when I'm out here doing what I do.
Obviously, this hits everyone differently. But damn—this one's a thinker.
That said, every now and then, the show touches on a topic that grabs my attention. Not often, but enough to make me glance at the screen. This latest subject gave me a very hypocritical feeling—one I didn’t like but understood.
I think we talked a while back about a trend where husbands pay male pornstars to have sex with their wives. It was getting some attention around 2023, though don’t quote me on that. Now, the trend has its own name and is featured on a specific site: “hotwifing.”
In this segment on The View, the hosts discussed how some husbands not only pay for the encounter but also sit in the corner and watch as their wives are taken by a professional performer. That part caught me off guard. I really thought it stopped at just paying for the experience—not going full voyeur. But hey, maybe that’s just me.
One thing I know about myself? Cuckolding isn’t in the cards. I know it’s a thing in swinger circles, and I respect the guys who are into it—it just takes a different mindset. But here’s the part that stuck with me: in this hobby, if I were in a relationship, I could very easily be called a hypocrite.
On that episode, each cohost gave their take. Joy Behar opened with skepticism, calling it “nuts.” Alyssa Farah Griffin said it sounded more like something that needed therapy than exploration. And Sunny Hostin, pulling from her religious roots, simply said these couples “need God.”
I don’t necessarily agree with them—but I don’t totally disagree either. It does feel a bit extreme to go that far for your partner’s desires. But then again… what if the roles were reversed? And, if we’re being honest, in some ways, maybe they already are.
Let’s be real—some of us (maybe most of us) in this hobby are married or in relationships. This space is an outlet. A second life we indulge in. So if a significant other expressed the same interest—with transparency—what right would we have to say no? Especially knowing what we do? What if they wanted to flip the script and explore hotwifing with you? What if they encouraged it?
It's a lot to sit with. As someone who was raised to see both sides of every issue, I can’t look at this as just black and white. It’s definitely a gray area. I know I could never see myself being a cuckold—but if I had a partner and she wanted to see a pornstar, would I stop her? Honestly… probably not. It would depend on a lot, but I can't say I'd feel right denying her when I'm out here doing what I do.
Obviously, this hits everyone differently. But damn—this one's a thinker.
