Fellas, what are some tips on how to be respectable BUT no nonsense........

shion · Jan 23, 2026

......Without being taken advantage of by a Provider?

And Go......

TopG____2001 · Jan 23, 2026

I try to be as respectful as possible with providers but after I leave I always end up feeling like a true SIMP trying to make her feel that she’s safe while with me.

Orton316 · Jan 23, 2026

There's a brief time between you guys meeting in the room and money exchanged to ask how she is and being respectful with small talk. But as soon as they take the money its business time and I begin getting handsy. I don't just grab her and start manhandling her at the start, I just maneuver her to some foreplay at first. If you have the mindset of this is strictly business but still can have fun in the moment it's pretty easy for both parties to have a fun time and feel safe with one another. But this is my experience with local providers; maybe PSE might be a different thing.

SpicyPapi_056 · Jan 24, 2026

From my own experience, upon meeting her I’m very personable and have a brief conversation. How are you? If it’s my first time meeting someone small banter, but once she counts the money it quite literally go time! Lol I am sweet and easy going first meeting as we just are meeting and I gauge her comfort level. Upfront I ask what the parameters are (because sometimes you can say one thing over text and then when she’s got the money she could be not as forth coming or she can very vague when we initially set it the date. But when we are in person face to face I can properly set my expectations. From there, it’s pure fun time! After the fun time I have small talk and wish her a good rest of her day/evening! I would consider myself sweet but not too sweet as (like most of us here) I am no fool. No such experience is taking place that I am not actively allowing to transpire. You got to look at it from her perspective, as she is doing the same exact thing.

It’s weird to explain but it’s like there is a formality that is there upon first meeting that slowly gets chipped away the more you see them. I would caution any man that go super SIMP because that might set an unfavorable tone. For example, who’s to say you so infatuated or worried about making her comfortable or really like you that she senses that and drains you of your time, or withholds certain “services” not because she doesn’t do it, but you never asked and she figures she can get by with minimal effort and you’ll be fine with it. What if she flat out deposit scams you or flat up just dashes making up an excuse to leave mid way? Once a woman’s pegged you as a certain type of guy it’s gonna be hard to break that stigma. That can be for better or worse. Now I’m not saying, you come out the gate handsy, entitled, or so hard set and fulfilling whatever fantasies you have, but be calm personable and clear with your intentions while you both figure out the rules of engagement will serve you and sessions to come. Depending on how y’all gel and the more familiar she becomes with you things can start to open up in ways you may have never considered in different ways you may never had thought possible. Shiiit this hobby is damn near like networking professionally

shion · Jan 24, 2026

TopG____2001 said:
I try to be as respectful as possible with providers but after I leave I always end up feeling like a true SIMP trying to make her feel that she’s safe while with me.

Interesting.
Never thought of that one

Sexaddict · Jan 24, 2026

Take charge, take charge of every conversation, let her know who´s boss and who "daddy is".
All that can indeed be done while remaining respectful and that is the best move.

ghost0 · Jan 24, 2026

I don’t understand. Just pay her rate, do the deed, and leave? Quit all the nonsensical stuff like texting, offering gifts, and dinner dates. Set some clear boundaries for yourself.

Doesn’t mean you need to be an asshole, but you need to set boundaries for yourself and the relationship before things get out hand and you find yourself sending her money because she’s going through “tough times.”

GninjaGnoodle · Jan 24, 2026

Plug for the book "Models", by Mark Manson. While focused more on dating/pick-ups, it includes a lot of advice that would help you (as it helped me).

Paraphrasing the advice from the book, the single biggest thing you can do is work on yourself (fitness, clothing, diet, etc.) until you have confidence in and respect for yourself.

As you build respect for yourself, the perspective flips from "how do I make sure this girl likes me without taking advantage of me" to "how do I create an enjoyable time for myself by treating this person as a partner in that goal?" After that, it's easy to comply with reasonable requests (as a means towards your goal) while simultaneously setting boundaries and being completely intolerant of things that waste your time and your money. And you can do all of this without being a narcissistic asshole. Takes effort and practice, but it works.

Briguy1875 · Jan 24, 2026

ghost0 said:
I don’t understand. Just pay her rate, do the deed, and leave? Quit all the nonsensical stuff like texting, offering gifts, and dinner dates. Set some clear boundaries for yourself.

Doesn’t mean you need to be an asshole, but you need to set boundaries for yourself and the relationship before things get out hand and you find yourself sending her money because she’s going through “tough times.”

This is something that is not the person that I am. It’s hard to be something that you are not. Some providers like this approach and some look for a connection real or not.
I look for the GFE so if the provider is GFE a little conversation and being personable can be fun and rewarding. But if she’s not GFE then it’s nothing I’m looking for.
There are all types of clients and all types of providers. Use all the information you have to find the best provider for what you like.
I wish I was naturally some alpha guy. It’s just not me.

FishMonger · Jan 24, 2026

I dont understand the context of the question. what does 'taken advantage of' mean specifically?? This doesn't seem to mean being scammed or something.

Firedemon4lyf · Jan 24, 2026

Won’t matter every girl will be different and will pick on the most inscrutable detail just csuse. Just be your self, don’t be a simp and don’t be a weirdo

shion · Jan 25, 2026

jdawgwitit said:
I dont understand the context of the question. what does 'taken advantage of' mean specifically?? This doesn't seem to mean being scammed or something.

Basically how to be your true nature of being sweet and kind without it being seen as a weakness and taken advantage of.

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