Always Test Your ATF/SB

[Sexaddict]

Finding the ATF or even the SB is truly amazing. It really is. You feel like you're “in love,” even though deep down you know it’s roleplay —...

Finding the ATF or even the SB is truly amazing. It really is. You feel like you're “in love,” even though deep down you know it’s roleplay — yet you still get that WOW feeling in your stomach. You get multiple dopamine hits a day when she writes to you on WhatsApp. It feels special.

However, after having experienced both, I’ve come to a conclusion after a lot of trial and error over the years.

Every gentleman should “test” his ATF/SB and here’s what I mean. I’ll back it up with a personal story.

The SB I’ve written about repeatedly… there was one thing about our setup or relationship, or whatever you want to call it, that actually hurt me. It was something I realized only after I had given her several gifts, including one in particular.

Her birthday was coming up, and I was excited because I was flying to Madrid to be with her on the special day. So I did what any man who feels “in love” and wants to impress would do: I went to the Gucci store and bought her a signature GG Marmont wallet for her birthday.

I flew to Madrid. The big day arrived. I gave her the wrapped gift, and she seemed very excited when she opened it. Either she truly was - or she receives so many wallets and bags from different men that she has the reaction rehearsed. Looking back, I suspect the latter.

Either way, she did what most people do when they receive a new wallet: she transferred all her cards and cash into the new Gucci wallet.

Good.. or so I thought.

Five months later, we met again in Madrid. I didn’t say anything, but when she pulled out her wallet to pay for something (for herself), it was her old wallet.

I was immediately disappointed. I wanted to confront her but didn’t. I just thought about how ungrateful she seemed.

Looking back at the whole situation, that moment taught me something important. That’s why I believe it’s wise to “test” your ATF or SB in subtle ways — to see whether she genuinely values you or whether you’re just another man in the rotation.

Feel the girl, is she lovable or cold? Always follow your gut, it's correct 100% of the time.

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[Townbizz54]

Absolutely test them. Ask them crazy shit just to see how they react. Give them an inch they will try to take a mile.

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[leoanon]

Yeah nah, that's on you. That is the reason why girls have wish lists, so they receive expensive gifts they actually want/will use. Also girls aren't like guys where they just keep one wallet, they change them out similar to a handbag, a bet less frequently, and also depending on the size of the purse they are bringing.

I am the same way as that girl, notoriously hard to shop for since I have very limited things I like and the things I do like I already get for myself. This leads to receiving a lot of gifts from people that don't know me well enough, that while I appreciate the thought, will go totally unused or regifted, regardless the price. They know to ask in advance if I want something before they buy it to gift it to me, or make sure its returnable/exchangeable at wherever they go it.

Don't be a baby and get upset that she didn't change her innate tastes just to appease you. Out of all the things providers lie/act about, hilarious this is the one you choose to be upset about, especially considering this isn't even a provider limited trait.

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[shion]

Finding the ATF or even the SB is truly amazing. It really is. You feel like you're “in love,” even though deep down you know it’s roleplay — yet you still get that WOW feeling in your stomach. You get multiple dopamine hits a day when she writes to you on WhatsApp. It feels special.

However, after having experienced both, I’ve come to a conclusion after a lot of trial and error over the years.

Every gentleman should “test” his ATF/SB and here’s what I mean. I’ll back it up with a personal story.

The SB I’ve written about repeatedly… there was one thing about our setup or relationship, or whatever you want to call it, that actually hurt me. It was something I realized only after I had given her several gifts, including one in particular.

Her birthday was coming up, and I was excited because I was flying to Madrid to be with her on the special day. So I did what any man who feels “in love” and wants to impress would do: I went to the Gucci store and bought her a signature GG Marmont wallet for her birthday.

I flew to Madrid. The big day arrived. I gave her the wrapped gift, and she seemed very excited when she opened it. Either she truly was - or she receives so many wallets and bags from different men that she has the reaction rehearsed. Looking back, I suspect the latter.

Either way, she did what most people do when they receive a new wallet: she transferred all her cards and cash into the new Gucci wallet.

Good.. or so I thought.

Five months later, we met again in Madrid. I didn’t say anything, but when she pulled out her wallet to pay for something (for herself), it was her old wallet.

I was immediately disappointed. I wanted to confront her but didn’t. I just thought about how ungrateful she seemed.

Looking back at the whole situation, that moment taught me something important. That’s why I believe it’s wise to “test” your ATF or SB in subtle ways — to see whether she genuinely values you or whether you’re just another man in the rotation.

Feel the girl, is she lovable or cold? Always follow your gut, it's correct 100% of the time.

But how should you test them?

Send them an ANONYMOUS Bouquet of flowers for St. Valentines Day and see if she calls you to say thanks?

Exactly how would test an escort/sb since its transactional to begin with and why?

She's playing a role. If she's convincing enough and respectful of the time you both have together....why test?

Are we testing for loyalty?

Trusting Her not to go to Reddit spilling the beans or doxxing if you two stop seeing each other? If so, have her sign an NDA...for what's its worth.

I don't understand the testing thing.

Is that part of being a sugar babe/ATF.....No Other Clients?

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[leoanon]

But how should test them?

Send them an ANONYMOUS Bouquet of flowers for St. Valentines Day and see if she calls you to say thanks?

Exactly how would test an escort/sb sincebits transactional to begin with and why?

She's playing a role. If she's convincing enough and respectful of the time you both have together....why test?

Are we testing for loyalty?

Trusting Her not to go to Reddit spilling the beans or doxxing if you two stop seeing each other? If so, have her sign an NDA...for what's its worth.

I don't understand the testing thing.

Is that part of being a sugar babe/ATF.....No Other Clients?

Lol facts, dude is upset a girl didn't like his gift and now is coming to the realization he's not special and just another trick paying for a 304. The only thing you should be judging these girls about is if she is present in the moment with you, and she tried her best to make you have a good time, and stay clean of course.

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

Testing is a tactic for insecure people.

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[oc.businessman.33]

I respectfully disagree

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[shion]

I respectfully disagree

Now I can understand the amount of time , money and energy that's being invested into an ATF/SB.....so you want to be appreciated for all you do.

Its not always about sex but the show of appreciation and being sincere when gifts are given from the heart and not as a gratuity.

If you put a ATF/SB through school, you should expect a certain level of gratitude from her.

If she has a more than one suitor, discretion is paramount on her part more than anything.

Unless, you're funding her entire LS than maybe I can see the " testing " aspect. You feel a certain type of way if she cancels on you because she's " sick " but find out later , another dude with more money had wanted that particular time slot.

One thing I noticed when lying next to a Provider who was to texting clients: Her " regulars" will accommodate HER schedule if needed. They just want to see her ...no matter the time and will work around her itinerary.

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[Sexaddict]

Lol facts, dude is upset a girl didn't like his gift and now is coming to the realization he's not special and just another trick paying for a 304. The only thing you should be judging these girls about is if she is present in the moment with you, and she tried her best to make you have a good time, and stay clean of course.

No, definitely not upset.
Just sharing what I´ve come to learn/realize.

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[6lover9]

Her " regulars" will accommodate HER schedule if needed. They just want to see her ...no matter the time and will work around her itinerary.

In my experience it cuts both ways. Regulars get priority.

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[oc.businessman.33]

Now I can understand the amount of time , money and energy that's being invested into an ATF/SB.....so you want to be appreciated for all you do.

Its not always about sex but the show of appreciation and being sincere when gifts are given from the heart and not as a gratuity.

If you put a ATF/SB through school, you should expect a certain level of gratitude from her.

If she has a more than one suitor, discretion is paramount on her part more than anything.

Unless, you're funding her entire LS than maybe I can see the " testing " aspect. You feel a certain type of way if she cancels on you because she's " sick " but find out later , another dude with more money had wanted that particular time slot.

One thing I noticed when lying next to a Provider who was to texting clients: Her " regulars" will accommodate HER schedule if needed. They just want to see her ...no matter the time and will work around her itinerary.

I move through life with a simple philosophy. anything I offer a woman is given freely, without expectation. That said, I naturally invest more where energy, effort, and sincerity are genuinely reciprocated.

In my opinion, the concerns raised here, including what Sexaddict originally shared, could have been resolved through confident, respectful communication. Clear words prevent unnecessary assumptions.

“Testing” someone often projects insecurity. It seeks validation indirectly instead of engaging in an honest conversation that could deliver clarity in a far more mature and respectful way.

My two cents.

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[nextkbe7]

Testing is often meaningless in a relationship like that. You can't truly expect her loyalty from the beginning. What matters more is whether you enjoyed your time together: did you get what you wanted from that intimate moment with her? Beyond that, it's wise to conserve your energy and efforts. The less you expect, the happier you will be. Don't get too wrapped up in it

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