I had my 11-year “anniversary” in this hobby earlier this year — and let’s be real: the deeper you go, the more
amazing highs and
painful lessons you collect.
Some things I wish I’d done differently. Some I wish I’d never done at all.
Without much sugarcoating — here are my biggest regrets.
Getting Too Personal with Providers
This one stings.
Every time I crossed that invisible line from “client” to “something more,” it backfired. I didn’t fall for top-tier companions charging $800/hour with a clear sense of boundaries — no, I fell for the $200–300/hour girls who blurred lines for attention, tips, or boredom.
They weren’t "bad company", but the dynamic never truly “worked.”
The chemistry was real — until the money, emotions, and reality kicked in.
And here’s the truth no one says out loud: most providers aren’t equipped for emotional balance in these setups. The few who are — you’ll recognize them instantly. Mature, grounded, professional. The ones who don’t play emotional ping-pong.
I´d except a whole other level of professionalism from the lovely PS provider that we have with us here at EA.
Not Trusting My Gut
If you stay long enough in this world, your instincts become your best filter.
Every time I ignored that tiny red flag — the price that was
too good, the pictures that looked
too perfect, the vibe that felt
off — I paid the price.
Trust your gut. Every time I didn’t, I lost money, time, or dignity. Sometimes all three.
Discovering ED Drugs Too Late
I was embarrassingly late to the Viagra/Cialis party. What a difference.
Sure, I’d had solid sessions without them — but once I tried, there was no going back. Not only does it keep you hard, it boosts confidence and even girth.
I wish I’d embraced it earlier instead of seeing it as a weakness. It’s a tool and every pro uses their tools.
Putting Providers First
For a long time, I treated providers I liked as if they were girlfriends. Big mistake.
I’d move plans around for them. Prioritize them. Text them like we were something “more.”
One in particular — a provider from Paraguay — had me wrapped around her finger. It ended in heartbreak and ghosting. And honestly, I can’t even blame her. I blurred the lines myself.
I wish I’d embraced it earlier instead of seeing it as a weakness. It’s a tool — and every pro uses their tools.
Not Showing Who’s In Charge
One of my biggest rookie mistakes was not showing who’s in charge from minute one.
When you’re new to the game — or even a few years in — you tend to let things “just happen.” You show up, follow the providers lead, and hope for the best.
That’s fine for beginners — but veterans know better.
As the client,
you set the tone.
That doesn’t mean being rude or pushy — it means being clear, confident, and decisive. Women in general can sense uncertainty a mile away.
You can be a gentleman
and take control.
Tell her what you want, how you like things, and make her feel you know what you’re doing. The best sessions I’ve ever had all started with me taking charge early — not waiting for her to lead.
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I’ll update this post later if I think of more things I regret not knowing in the beginning - till then, all questions are welcome.
