Beyond the Luxury: Why Providers Share Their Lifestyle on Social Media

[Swytypy]

Understood, I get it. It has the same effect on me. It gives the perception that how the date has to be for her to enjoy it.

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[NoLovewithGlove]

I’m not judging those of you who give gifts, but I’m on team “no tips/gifts” on first meetings. I believe the rate they charge for their time should suffice. It’s not to say that I haven’t given any gifts or lavish experiences, but I do that with my favorite providers, all of whom I’ve been seeing for 10+ years, and providing is no longer their main occupation. Gifts and experiences are to be earned. They can buy luxury items for themselves.

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[Swytypy]

I’m not judging those of you who give gifts, but I’m on team “no tips/gifts” on first meetings. I believe the rate they charge for their time should suffice. It’s not to say that I haven’t given any gifts or lavish experiences, but I do that with my favorite providers, all of whom I’ve been seeing for 10+ years, and providing is no longer their main occupation. Gifts and experiences are to be earned. They can buy luxury items for themselves.

I’ve said this before but will repeat it here for context. The donation is compensation for her time. I always bring a gift as well, as a show of appreciation and respect for her as a human being, as a sex worker, for the scenes I’ve watched and masturbated to over the months/years, for seeing me instead of someone else, etc. If it means I get better treatment or am remembered more fondly after or I get any other benefit from it, so be it. That’s not the intent, and certainly isn’t always the case, but I’m not going to stop doing it.

The point of this particular thread is that it shouldn’t be shoved in my face that other guys do so much more and that what the other guys do is the baseline, expected treatment.

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[Solitaire]

I’ve said this before but will repeat it here for context. The donation is compensation for her time. I always bring a gift as well, as a show of appreciation and respect for her as a human being, as a sex worker, for the scenes I’ve watched and masturbated to over the months/years, for seeing me instead of someone else, etc. If it means I get better treatment or am remembered more fondly after or I get any other benefit from it, so be it. That’s not the intent, and certainly isn’t always the case, but I’m not going to stop doing it.

The point of this particular thread is that it shouldn’t be shoved in my face that other guys do so much more and that what the other guys do is the baseline, expected treatment.

That’s on them and honestly be thankful cause it shows their lack of class and grace. You can buy things but you can’t buy class or grace. And that’s why she’s a contractor. Not anyone of importance.

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[king-sama4u2nv]

I appreciate the shout-out @king-sama4u2nv and if any of my fellow members follow me on X, let me know so I can follow back.

Theodore Roosevelt said it best, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Never compare yourself to another client. We are all different and unique. We don't know the struggles someone faced to become who they are today. I sacrificed and experienced a lot of hardship to be where I am at today. Poverty, pain, death, etc. It was a long hard road outta hell.

Do you to the best of your ability. Enjoy what you have. If you want more go get it. It can be done. The question is how bad do you want it.

That's for sure my problem without a doubt. I see and hear all these things I would love to do myself nut have the inability to do it myself. I know these types of things would make the providers have a great time and subconsciously I enjoy they're having a good time regardless as to what happens at the end of the night. Again, this is a me thing. Something I have to overcome myself. Still, appreciate the words OC.

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[Swytypy]

That’s on them and honestly be thankful cause it shows their lack of class and grace. You can buy things but you can’t buy class or grace. And that’s why she’s a contractor. Not anyone of importance.

That’s taking things too far in my opinion, and is sounding dismissive and disrespectful. I don’t feel that way at all. I just can’t see booking anyone who advertises the lavish treatment because it makes me feel like I can’t measure up. Doesn’t mean I disrespect them as a person or provider. Just that she’s not for me.

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[SlyJr]

I have thoughts but it would be entirely too much to type.

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[Solitaire]

That’s taking things too far in my opinion, and is sounding dismissive and disrespectful. I don’t feel that way at all. I just can’t see booking anyone who advertises the lavish treatment because it makes me feel like I can’t measure up. Doesn’t mean I disrespect them as a person or provider. Just that she’s not for me.

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[Borshak]

I've definitely encountered a girl that posts gifts because she's desperate to be seen as part of the in group with other women that post lavish trips and stuff. Status seeking of some sort.

Personally I've given gifts and I appreciate seeing what interests a person to see where we might have overlapping interests. One girl liked to receive her donation in a book. That seemed quite modest and was at least a little cute.

I bought one girl a wok and got one for myself at the same time because we had been talking about cooking some things that require a wok. I don't feel odd about that.

As for hotels and trips, that's not really a gift so much as what I wanted to do.

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[aurum]

I saw the thread you’re talking about. It reminded me of what I posted about last month. I totally understand why these women want to post about the gifts they get and the trips they’re taken on, but even though it may seem like my funds are unlimited from the number of porn stars I see, that’s not the case. My life situation and funds prevent me from doing much more than a 2-4 hour incall/outcall with a meal and a gift worth a couple hundred dollars unless I want to severely limit my future hobbying.

Many of these posts make me feel as though I shouldn’t even bother trying to book these women because I won’t be able to spoil them the way other guys do, and therefore won’t be considered a good or preferred client. It makes me feel as though the “correct” way to book an elite companion is to take her on an elaborate date, vacation, spa getaway, etc., spoil her with lavish gifts and then hang out for play time, and anything less would be disrespectful. So in addition to BBFS being off the table despite me being fully tested, I prefer not to book at all rather than book in a lesser/disrespectful way.

And even though I know their posts aren’t intended this way, I know I’m not the only guy who internalizes them that way. Specifically, there was one gentleman on that thread you’re talking about who said exactly what I’m saying here, which prompted the reply that (I assume) triggered this post.

I saw the thread you’re talking about. It reminded me of what I posted about last month. I totally understand why these women want to post about the gifts they get and the trips they’re taken on, but even though it may seem like my funds are unlimited from the number of porn stars I see, that’s not the case. My life situation and funds prevent me from doing much more than a 2-4 hour incall/outcall with a meal and a gift worth a couple hundred dollars unless I want to severely limit my future hobbying.

Many of these posts make me feel as though I shouldn’t even bother trying to book these women because I won’t be able to spoil them the way other guys do, and therefore won’t be considered a good or preferred client. It makes me feel as though the “correct” way to book an elite companion is to take her on an elaborate date, vacation, spa getaway, etc., spoil her with lavish gifts and then hang out for play time, and anything less would be disrespectful. So in addition to BBFS being off the table despite me being fully tested, I prefer not to book at all rather than book in a lesser/disrespectful way.

And even though I know their posts aren’t intended this way, I know I’m not the only guy who internalizes them that way. Specifically, there was one gentleman on that thread you’re talking about who said exactly what I’m saying here, which prompted the reply that (I assume) triggered this post.

you want to be their favorite client? also idk how feasible this would be. like with the internet this sis global, like there is always a dubai prince to upstage you. also if your spending that much you could prob jsut date a gold digger or like get a sugar baby

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[Swytypy]

you want to be their favorite client? also idk how feasible this would be. like with the internet this sis global, like there is always a dubai prince to upstage you. also if your spending that much you could prob jsut date a gold digger or like get a sugar baby

Fair point. I don’t want to be a favorite client. But I don’t want to be in the list of “that guy who just wants to book me to have sex and didn’t treat me lavishly”. And I’m not even saying there’s a list like that, although some women might have one. But those posts make me feel like there is a post like that and me booking the experience I want would put me on it.

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[alphamale]

My ATF isn't much of a braggadocio.
Although she, most assuredly, has a interesting story to tell ... she never talks about herself!
She's sweet-natured and demure.
Surprisingly, as a woman of her caliber and stature ... she possesses very little pretense, artifice and affectation!
(Although she does proudly sport a pair of $900 CFM Louboutins during our rendezvous (and looks absolutely fabulous in them)!
Here's what happened one night, though:
(Boy ... was I surprised!)
It was a bitter cold February night!
A night where the wind chills your bones ... cuts right thru you!
Upon entering her room, I put my jacket in the hotel room's closet.
(No big deal ... thought nothing of it!)
After the shameless, wanton fucking and sucking festivities ... as I was about to leave her room and we were exchanging our sweet goodbyes ... I reflexively reached into the closet to grab (what I thought was) MY jacket!
But ... I grabbed HER jacket, instead!
No big deal, right?
AU CONTRAIRE!
(Now, I know absolutely nothing about haute couture, women's fashion and luxury goods!)
NADA!
As I was about to put her jacket back into the closet ... I couldn't help but notice and admire and pay particular attention to its luxurious feel, meticulous detail and workmanship!
IT WAS a HIGHLY IMPRESSIVE ... Article of Haute Couture!
(Even to ME!)
IT JUST LOOKED and FELT LUXURIOUS and EXPENSIVE!
As I was holding it up and admiring it ... I inquired about its provenance: "Rena Luv .. where did get this jacket, it looks really expensive?"
I took particular notice of the stitching, the feel and puffiness of the feathers and the designer hood!
Well, Let Me Tell You: THAT SET HER OFF!
(She got all wound up!)
She begins to proudly tell me THAT it's a $2700 Moncler Parnaiba Hooded Long Down with Icelandic eiderdown!
Icelandic eiderdown!
Huh ... whaa?
Who knew?
(And, she got it for $1300 from a boutique in SOHO during a Black Friday sale!)
Who knew?
Now ... she was really getting worked up on enlightening me on the finer points of haute couture!
(She was just getting started!)
She proudly boasted, with great enthusiasm, that she could spot a designer knockoff ... from a mile way!
THEN ... she pulls out her phone!
And, proceeds to proudly show me pictures of her walk-in closet!
OMG!
IT WAS MIGHTILY IMPRESSIVE!
(Now ... you gotta picture THIS: All the while she's doing this in her birthday suit in a pair of 5" CFM Louboutins ... cuz that's the way she always escorts me to the door at the end of the night!)
As she's breathlessly showing me pics of her walk-in closet ... she begins to expound upon her designer shoe collection!
(They were racked-up from floor to ceiling!)
And, she continued to expound upon her designer clothes!
And, her designer belts!
And, her designer anklets!
And, her Sephora collection!
Her Bottega, Saint Laurent and Prada handbags!
And, of all things ... she explicitly points out the $500 Borovany wall mirror in the walk-in!
WTF?
She also tells me she's on the invitation-only client list at exclusive SOHO boutiques!
Well ... EXCUSE ME!
(She then shows me a picture of her and Adriana Lima (the VS model) ... she met at one of the invitation-only SOHO boutique gigs!)
WHO KNEW!
(And, she wasn't done YET!)
Of all things, of all things ... she begins to expound upon her $29 Kirby Allison coat hangers!
($29 Kirby Allison coat hangers!)
WHO KNEW!





ps
I always suspected she was livin' large; led a charmed life; made beaucoup bucks ... and had a plethora of HNW client$!
(MY SUSPICIONS WERE CONFIRMED!)

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