Using Seeking

[Kallyfish12]

Sorry for the newbie question (new to all of this), but can someone provide some pointers on how to create and use Seeking? What should I put on my profile...

Sorry for the newbie question (new to all of this), but can someone provide some pointers on how to create and use Seeking? What should I put on my profile? Like what should I write for "Tell us a bit about yourself” and "What I am looking for”? I’m not looking for a relationship or SB, but rather one time things.

Also, how do I use this app? As in how do I start a convo with a girl here?

Apologies for all the dumb questions. New to this world.

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

Just write down that you have lots of money and want to spoil girls with no sex required. You’ll get tons of messages that way.

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[Brielle]

Just write down that you have lots of money and want to spoil girls with no sex required. You’ll get tons of messages that way.

As someone who’s been on Seeking since I was like 19/20, this is pretty accurate hahaha. If you want my honest opinion, the type of women you attract depends on what you show and how you open.

If you’re only looking for one-time situations and not a long-term arrangement, be upfront about that — but in a clean, respectful way. On Seeking, most women filter based on vibe + resources, so if you really want quick, casual meetups, you kinda do have to lead with lifestyle. Flashy photos, a good watch, travel pics, anything that signals “I’m established” helps more than you’d think.

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[Kallyfish12]

Just write down that you have lots of money and want to spoil girls with no sex required. You’ll get tons of messages that way.

I’m a Nigerian prince and I want to share my vast wealth with you. All I need is your SSN.

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[Sexaddict]

Honestly
In your bio, be as arrogant as possible, set the tone.

Let potential SB´s know who runs the show.

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[Kallyfish12]

As someone who’s been on Seeking since I was like 19/20, this is pretty accurate hahaha. If you want my honest opinion, the type of women you attract depends on what you show and how you open.

If you’re only looking for one-time situations and not a long-term arrangement, be upfront about that — but in a clean, respectful way. On Seeking, most women filter based on vibe + resources, so if you really want quick, casual meetups, you kinda do have to lead with lifestyle. Flashy photos, a good watch, travel pics, anything that signals “I’m established” helps more than you’d think.

Dang, the last time I went on vacation, I only took photos of random cats and dogs

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[GninjaGnoodle]

My bios stink (being married and not willing to post photos doesn't help). So I won't offer any advice there. Arrogant and in control is one option, and it probably works.

Focusing on search and DMs: as with any marketing (including of yourself), it helps to segment things, then proceed accordingly.

In NYC (where I sugar), there are a few segments that matter to me:
A) Latinas (mostly South American) who are here and don't want to post on Trystlink/Eros/etc., but are effectively pros with dayjobs.
B) UA/RU women who are generally younger, but are swinging through the US. Also effectively pros with dayjobs, but way more expensive than bucket one.
C) "Basic" sugar folks - have been on the site for years, tons of reviews on boards, etc.
D) High end sugar babies - I don't fuck with them because they don't fuck with me. Unless you have $100k per year to spend on a single woman, don't bother.

I'm always direct without being explicit; you should always assume a pissed-off SB will report you to Seeking, and you don't want explicit propositions in Seeking DMs. But my approach is different with each. Group A can do all nighters for $800-1k. Propose that to group B or D and you'll be blocked/reported immediately. Group C is very big into secrecy/safety, as they may have families, etc. And so on...

So figure out what you want out of Seeking (i.e., which segment above are you after?), figure out what you're willing to "spend" (including risk of scams, blackmail, etc.), and proceed accordingly.

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[hotplayboy]

tons of reviews on boards

Which boards? Did not know SBs have reviews

I'm always direct without being explicit

Can you elaborate your opening message and approach (if you are comfortable) for group A, B and C? Because I learned from some other guy few months ago that he takes the convo to number quickly and mentions explicit stuff to cut through the BS quickly and get to the point.

I met with only one SB (type C) earlier this year in NYC and it went horrible (maybe it's because I met her directly at the hotel and my vibe didn't make her comfortable enough) So, I want to make sure I'm prepared to do better before next time.

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[GninjaGnoodle]

Can you elaborate your opening message and approach (if you are comfortable) for group A, B and C? Because I learned from some other guy few months ago that he takes the convo to number quickly and mentions explicit stuff to cut through the BS quickly and get to the point.

I met with only one SB (type C) earlier this year in NYC and it went horrible (maybe it's because I met her directly at the hotel and my vibe didn't make her comfortable enough) So, I want to make sure I'm prepared to do better before next time.

(Note the spaces ... believe it or not, I don't think SA finds those words when they have spaces, or they do and just don't care).

Group A - "Hi there, you're gorgeous! I'm very interested in connecting for some mutua lly-bene ficial fun when I'm in town on xxxx. If you're interested, let me know and we'll discuss further."

Group B - often needs dinner. "Hi there, you're gorgeous! I'm very interested in grabbing dinner and having some mutua lly-bene ficial fun when I'm in town on xxxx. Uf you're interested, let me know and well discuss further."

Group C is harder, so your experience isn't shocking. Making it feel transactional is tough, and my hit rate in responses with follow-through is much lower. But something like "Hi there, I think we'd be a great match and would love to discuss an arrang ement further." works better than anything else I have.

Other odds and ends, a lot of which applies to dealing with escorts as well:
- be specific about when you want to see them. Nothing raises "time waster" more than not being specific about when you can meet.
- security, security, security. Use a burner #, mask your photos to defeat reverse image search, don't verify, etc. Note that I'm fine with doing the image verification / ID verification on Seeking. I think the check mark helps, and I'm too small a fish for any hacker or law enforcement to really care about if they got that info.
- if it looks too good to be true, it is.

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[inspectahjamescahtah]

I’m a Nigerian prince and I want to share my vast wealth with you. All I need is your SSN.

here's my SSN: 696-69-6969

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[NJLover]

Spoke about this topic about two years ago. I’ve had a ton of success finding gorgeous civilian women of all ages and races who will absolutely just fuck for money. My advice is in the post below.

That said, Seeking very recently completely changed their site rules, turning it more into a traditional dating site. Full face pictures are required to have a profile that will show up in searches, you have to use an actual name, not a screen name, etc. I’m not going to be using the site going forward, trying my luck again on Secret Benefits (which is a vastly inferior site because of the commercial set up, but I’ve had some success there too).

Post in thread 'How do i find a sugarbabe?..'
https://escortaccess.net/threads/how-do-i-find-a-sugarbabe.4419/post-25561

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

here's my SSN: 696-69-6969

The irony if this was a legit entry for someone

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[6lover9]

Seeking just sent me a note my profile needed to be fixed. I got the description ironed out but name and picture is problematic. May need to forego it completely.

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[JustSimmy]

Honestly
In your bio, be as arrogant as possible, set the tone.

Let potential SB´s know who runs the show.

I wouldn't say be arrogant, direct, yes... I let them tell me what they think they are worth and then I tell them what I'm willing to do. I ask about boundaries and I always include GFE/BBFS, and full evenings to have a good time/unrushed. I tell them that they won't offend me by throwing it out there, but I then get to rein it back in. Most of the time they are pretty desperate and if you set the tone of being nice, trustworthy and respectful I usually get a much better arrangement long term.

I've had super models ask me for 50K a month and a credit card and I've been able to get that down by 90% - usually hanging with them when I'm in different cities across the world. For the most part, the girls that wanted that are absolutely drop dead gorgeous, but they fall apart everywhere else, no personality, all kinds of emotional baggage. I have a pretty good list of the ones I like to hang out with, I'm definately overachieving with and keep coming back to me because I know how to treat them.

To each their own - I'm never going to get married but I still like companionship and I have great special friendships with these women and they know I'm there for them when they need help - it is worth its weight in gold - especially when they travel the world and live way to high off the hog! Take them to the Langham in London or the Plaza Athenee in Paris along with a Michelin 2/3 star meal and that's my idea of an incredible weekend, of course, when in an arrangement, intimacy is part of the deal and that usually is amazing as well.

Anyway, a little different spin to it...

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[Sexaddict]

I've had super models ask me for 50K a month and a credit card and I've been able to get that down by 90% - usually hanging with them when I'm in different cities across the world. For the most part, the girls that wanted that are absolutely drop dead gorgeous, but they fall apart everywhere else, no personality, all kinds of emotional baggage. I have a pretty good list of the ones I like to hang out with, I'm definately overachieving with and keep coming back to me because I know how to treat them.

$50,000 a month? But then again I do get that they're very top tier when it comes to looks and that they probably have received that kind of money before from top-tier lawyers, Fortune 500 CEO´s, VPs and on and on the list goes.

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[Townbizz54]

Honestly
In your bio, be as arrogant as possible, set the tone.

Let potential SB´s know who runs the show.

This works really fucking well.

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