I’m curious—there comes a point in our lives where we need to step back and ask ourselves if
we are the problem. It happens when our circle of friends starts shrinking or when we stop seeing certain family members as often. I’d like to think this is something providers reflect on as well, but the reality is, many of them may not have people in their lives prompting them to think this way. At least, not all of them do.
So, let me put this in simple terms: At what point does a provider start blending their civilian life with their life in sex work?
Here’s an example. A provider, while going on a date, asked her civilian date to pay for her Uber. Mind you, this was not a paid date—just a regular civilian outing. The guy refused, saying he didn’t feel obligated to do so. In the screenshot, he comes off a bit harsh toward the end, maybe even a little douchey, but he’s being honest. Aside from his unnecessary morning message, I’m struggling to see what the issue is.
Now, if this were a provider I was booking, my response would be entirely different. I’d send her an Uber without her even having to ask, because she’s coming
to see me. If I can’t afford to cover transportation, then I shouldn’t be booking her in the first place, and I’d deserve to lose my deposit and my chance to see her again. But this situation isn’t that.
I’m probably in the minority here, but something as simple as paying for your own Uber shouldn’t be a big deal. I haven’t been on a civilian date in a while, but from what I hear, a lot of women expect men to do a
hell of a lot before they’ve even had a real conversation. I don’t mind paying for dinner or other things throughout the night, but I don’t see why covering her transportation should be my responsibility.
From the provider’s perspective, though, asking for an Uber was probably second nature. She’s used to doing it in her line of work. None of us would say no to a provider asking for a ride—it’s part of the experience. They’re coming
to see you, and that’s just how it works. But in this case, she might still be carrying those expectations into her civilian life, not realizing the context has changed.
Hell, maybe I’m overthinking this. Maybe this
is the new normal for dating. But the guy in this situation is supposedly a 50-year-old man, and even
he had a problem with paying for her Uber. So I don’t know—could be putting to much into this.
