Let me start by saying that this has nothing to do with race. Whether or not someone chooses to learn English is entirely up to them. For me, however, I’m...
Let me start by saying that this has nothing to do with race. Whether or not someone chooses to learn English is entirely up to them. For me, however, I’m opting to avoid providers who don’t speak fluent English. Even if they know a bit or speak it in broken phrases, it’s not enough to make me want to book. Do I think I might be missing out on certain experiences? Absolutely. But it’s not easy for me to backpedal on this.
One of the strongest assets you can share with a provider is a good conversation. It opens you up to new perspectives, unexpected connections, and deeper bonds. These qualities are essential throughout the entire experience with a provider—from the initial email to the moment you leave the hotel room. Communication happens before, during, and sometimes even after you meet, and it’s crucial to establishing and maintaining a connection that might extend into the future. Trying to achieve that with a language barrier in place seems nearly impossible.
I’m not speaking hypothetically here. I’ve seen providers who genuinely struggled with English, some who relied on Google Translate for emails or texts before we met. And when we did meet, they struggled to understand me as much as I struggled to understand them. Sure, I still received the service I paid for, but as strange as it sounds, that wasn’t enough for me.
For me, connection happens through conversation. It’s one of the main reasons I enjoy seeing providers. Conversation is intoxicating; it lets me talk, laugh, and feel that non-physical connection that, in turn, makes the physical one stronger. Unfortunately, I find it challenging to create this with a provider who isn’t fluent in English.
I know this decision keeps me from many things—learning opportunities, social experiences, and perhaps even the chance to engage with different cultures. For instance, there’s a JAV star I keep hearing about, but I let the language barrier hold me back. The closest I’ve come to booking a JAV star was with a Japanese-American provider who was bilingual in both English and Japanese. The conversation was fantastic, and she even spoke some Japanese during the session.
Having a provider who is bilingual in English and their native language is a great asset, but I need to feel confident that we can communicate fully. As sad and perhaps ignorant as that may sound, it just makes sense to me.
