I’ve already written before about major red flags to look out for when choosing who to see, and another post about what to pay attention to when picking your next ATF - the one that could turn into something more.
Now, here’s a little real-world example that really drives the point home.
A local buddy of mine - a fellow hobbyist too, has seen the same provider three times over the past two weeks.
All of the sessions were one-hour sessions. They barely know each other.
During the third visit, they exchanged phone numbers because, as he put it, "it could lead to more."
I told him to be cautious.
And what do you know - today he gets a message from her, asking for money outside of a session.
Of course, he’s not giving her a single cent, and he’s not even sure she’ll be back in town anyway.
The takeaway?
When a provider you’ve only just started seeing begins asking for cash, “help,” or “favors” outside of bookings - that’s your cue to walk away instantly. Block and move on.
Some so-called regulars make it really easy to spot the red flags early .
Now, here’s a little real-world example that really drives the point home.
A local buddy of mine - a fellow hobbyist too, has seen the same provider three times over the past two weeks.
All of the sessions were one-hour sessions. They barely know each other.
During the third visit, they exchanged phone numbers because, as he put it, "it could lead to more."
I told him to be cautious.
And what do you know - today he gets a message from her, asking for money outside of a session.
Of course, he’s not giving her a single cent, and he’s not even sure she’ll be back in town anyway.
The takeaway?
When a provider you’ve only just started seeing begins asking for cash, “help,” or “favors” outside of bookings - that’s your cue to walk away instantly. Block and move on.
Some so-called regulars make it really easy to spot the red flags early .
