I could use some advice. I got hit up today by a provider I saw once last year for some cash to help tide her over while waiting for a paycheck. She’s not in mainstream anymore so isn’t really affected by the PASS hold. I’ve been trying to sponsor a tour for her for a while. She’s sometimes very responsive to texts, sometimes goes radio silent for weeks or longer.
This is the second time she asked me for cash. The first time was when we were pretty engaged in discussions about the sponsored tour a few months ago and it felt a bit opportunistic at the time, but I offered a small-ish CashApp in the hopes that it would grease the wheels to help seal the deal. It didn’t.
Having her ask a second time today right after I reached out to her for the first time in weeks feels a bit ick and I don’t want to give her anything because I don’t want to be seen as a “simp”, a wallet or set the expectation that she can do this any time she wants or needs. But I’d still like to sponsor a tour and see her because we got along really well and I think she’d be fun to spend a day with. I just don’t want to be blunt or hurtful or sound selfish or dicky in my response.
What do you guys think? Should I just say no and forget about her? Should I try to find a way to say no politely? Should I say yes and do this a second time but somehow indicate this is it?
This is the second time she asked me for cash. The first time was when we were pretty engaged in discussions about the sponsored tour a few months ago and it felt a bit opportunistic at the time, but I offered a small-ish CashApp in the hopes that it would grease the wheels to help seal the deal. It didn’t.
Having her ask a second time today right after I reached out to her for the first time in weeks feels a bit ick and I don’t want to give her anything because I don’t want to be seen as a “simp”, a wallet or set the expectation that she can do this any time she wants or needs. But I’d still like to sponsor a tour and see her because we got along really well and I think she’d be fun to spend a day with. I just don’t want to be blunt or hurtful or sound selfish or dicky in my response.
What do you guys think? Should I just say no and forget about her? Should I try to find a way to say no politely? Should I say yes and do this a second time but somehow indicate this is it?
