Navigating the World of Gifts & Providers

[Sexaddict]

I’ve always found the whole question of when to bring gifts a bit confusing.

If it’s a provider you genuinely like, you want to bring a gift to...

I’ve always found the whole question of when to bring gifts a bit confusing.

If it’s a provider you genuinely like, you want to bring a gift to stand out - but not something over the top.

At the same time, you also don’t want to show up empty-handed. As I’ve mentioned in another post, it’s really about staying one step ahead of the competition if you want to remain in the “race” to be one of a provider’s true VIP clients.

Before doing that, though, it’s important to feel it out first. Is the chemistry there? Do you have things in common? These are the things I’ve written about before - and they do really matter a lot.

Navigating the world of gift-giving isn’t easy.
Sure, one could simply tip their favorite provider, but tips can start to feel a bit dull after a while, especially when you’ve known her for some time.
That’s when the “fun” begins - when you go out of your way to show her that she’s genuinely appreciated.

Physical gifts on her birthday are a must on said providers birthday - even if you’re not in the same country.
Fire up Amazon (or wherever) and have something sent to her address.

My go-to gift ideas for a provider you’d like to build a deeper connection with — but haven’t known for too long — are:

• A nice perfume
• High-quality chocolates from a specialty chocolatier
• Lingerie

These three things all send a message - a subtle but meaningful one. It tells her, even subconsciously, that you think about her. And trust me, she’ll remember that.

I can´t stress enough that it's really important to see if there´s even a flee of personal connection before starting to bring gifts.
If there´s none, find another providers. It took me 4 years before I found my first ATF.

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[Swytypy]

We’ve discussed this topic a bunch of times before, but we now have several high profile providers on this forum, all of whom joined after the last big discussion about it, and I’d love to get their perspective on this.

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[djbadboy]

I also like to personalize the gifts for each girl to make them know I did my homework/research which I hope makes them feel that I value them and also that I put some effort into finding things out about them. For example I'm going to see a girl this months who's into photography and has set ups in Dubai, London and Cyprus so I've found which camera model she uses and will get some accessories related to them.

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[Sexaddict]

we now have several high profile providers on this forum, all of whom joined after the last big discussion about it, and I’d love to get their perspective on this.

I would love that too.

@TanyaTate @SelenaIvy

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[sagehunterxo]

I totally agree! If they have a perfume on their Amazon or Luxylist, you know they will love it or getting sent a giftcard to get one You can never go wrong with chocolates & especially not lingerie!!

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[gofer345]

Whats the best brand of perfume to get? Sending flowers and chocolates seems to be the go-to, thats not too cliche right?

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[sagehunterxo]

Whats the best brand of perfume to get? Sending flowers and chocolates seems to be the go-to, thats not too cliche right?

I'd ask whichever girl because scent is so personal! For example one of my first perfumes I got gifted was Chanel No 5 & bless him, it was super sweet & the gesture was very thoughtful but the perfume unfortunately smells very "old" on me if that makes any sense! I love a lot of perfumes that other girls either love or don't care much for, so it really does depend on what they like & girls love being asked what perfume! Trust me!

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[6lover9]

@sagehunterxo what perfume?

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

I’ve always found the whole question of when to bring gifts a bit confusing.

Before the session, it’s a gift.
After the session, it’s a tip.

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[TanyaTate]

Before the session, it’s a gift.
After the session, it’s a tip.

I like this analogy

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[TanyaTate]

Honestly each girl is different. I love this discussion and the kindness of those sending gifts.

Pefume is personal you need to find what the girl likes. Some scents even smell different on other people’s skin. I love Chanel Chance.

Chocolate haha I’m sure most girls eat it… but not me I’m super picky on what I eat most due to anti inflammatory diet for health reasons

Lingerie all girl loves this… you need to ask her size in the brand you are hoping to buy. Different brands could be diff sizes.

All girls love make up, appreciation of gift cards for Sephora or ultra. Where else does she like to shop. Gift cards are always appreciated.

For lingerie, there is only one style that fits me in honey birdette. I’ve had gift cards sent in advance where I’ve gone to the HB store to chose the lingerie and sent pictures and / or a little thank you video.

What is her fave drink. Come with a bottle to share is a nice touch. Obv make sure she doesn’t over do it on the alcohol, that’s not a good look.

I love gifts from my Amazon wishlist, Shoes, dresses, purses, jewelry. At the end of the day if someone took the time to go shopping for me I really appreciate the sentiment. You can always offer to take her shopping

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[Swytypy]

All girls love make up, appreciation of gift cards for Sephora or ultra. Where else does she like to shop. Gift cards are always appreciated.

I’m big on gift cards. I know they’re not as personal and don’t show any real effort in finding just the right thing for the woman I’m seeing, but it offers her so much flexibility, as if I’m saying, “I don’t know you very well, if at all, and even though you have wish lists that can tell me what you want and like, I don’t want to potentially get it wrong and give you something too big, too small, something you don’t like, something you don’t need anymore, something you’re allergic to, etc. but I want to give you something you can actually find real value in, to show my appreciation and affection, so here’s something you can use to buy yourself EXACTLY what you want, when you want it, from a place I know you’ll shop at”.

Given some of the effort some guys put into bringing unique gifts, seeing appreciation for gift cards is encouraging and even heartwarming

I love gifts from my Amazon wishlist

I’ve made Amazon wishlist purchases exactly 5 times, 2 of them made in person at the start of the date with her picking out what she wanted. Only 2 of those 5 purchases actually successfully made it to the woman (2 failures were due to recent moves and address changes) so I’ve shied away from it.

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[sagehunterxo]

@sagehunterxo what perfume?

Baccarat Rouge 540
Louis Vuitton "Spell on You"
Green bottle of Chanel "Chance"
Miss Dior "Absolutely Blooming Bouquet"
YSL "Black Opium"
Dior "J'Adore"

are my personal favorites

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[Sexaddict]

Baccarat Rouge 540
Louis Vuitton "Spell on You"
Green bottle of Chanel "Chance"
Miss Dior "Absolutely Blooming Bouquet"
YSL "Black Opium"
Dior "J'Adore"

are my personal favorites

How about Chanel No. 5?

That always seems to leave a good impression

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[TanyaTate]

I’m big on gift cards. I know they’re not as personal and don’t show any real effort in finding just the right thing for the woman I’m seeing, but it offers her so much flexibility, as if I’m saying, “I don’t know you very well, if at all, and even though you have wish lists that can tell me what you want and like, I don’t want to potentially get it wrong and give you something too big, too small, something you don’t like, something you don’t need anymore, something you’re allergic to, etc. but I want to give you something you can actually find real value in, to show my appreciation and affection, so here’s something you can use to buy yourself EXACTLY what you want, when you want it, from a place I know you’ll shop at”.

Given some of the effort some guys put into bringing unique gifts, seeing appreciation for gift cards is encouraging and even heartwarming


I’ve made Amazon wishlist purchases exactly 5 times, 2 of them made in person at the start of the date with her picking out what she wanted. Only 2 of those 5 purchases actually successfully made it to the woman (2 failures were due to recent moves and address changes) so I’ve shied away from it.

Well I definitely appreciate a gift card. Very sweet and unexpected to find it there

Wow sorry about Amazon. I do pretty good with mine. People send them to my mailbox and I open them on my family friendly livestream on YouTube and Instagram. Haha keeps you checking to see me open the parcels live. I do usually peek in the box just before I reveal the package just to make sure it looks family friendly. Haha do NOT want to be showing a dildo on IG... and no please don't send me one haha I prefer the real thing

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[Swytypy]

Well I definitely appreciate a gift card. Very sweet and unexpected to find it there

Wow sorry about Amazon. I do pretty good with mine.

I guess I can bring a gift card to a date when I know she has a wishlist and offer a live purchase, and if she’s concerned about it not working for some reason, I can use the gift card as a backup. Thanks for helping me work this out

People send them to my mailbox and I open them on my family friendly livestream on YouTube and Instagram. Haha keeps you checking to see me open the parcels live. I do usually peek in the box just before I reveal the package just to make sure it looks family friendly. Haha do NOT want to be showing a dildo on IG... and no please don't send me one haha I prefer the real thing

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[djbadboy]

Also, I forgot to mention in my first post here, I always bring flowers. Always. All girls (except 2) loved the gesture and were so touched. Each and every time. And watching the smile and seeing the sparkle in their eyes is so refreshing and joyous.

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[Swytypy]

Also, I forgot to mention in my first post here, I always bring flowers. Always. All girls (except 2) loved the gesture and were so touched. Each and every time. And watching the smile and seeing the sparkle in their eyes is so refreshing and joyous.

This is rarely feasible for me. Seeing women on tour in my city and giving them flowers means them keeping flowers in their hotel room when other guys show up. I’ve shown up in hotel rooms and seen flowers, and it’s a very not subtle reminder I wasn’t there first. I know it’s true but I do my best to not think about it so I don’t want or need the reminder. And the flowers I’ve seen are always still in their wrappers, usually laying down next to the tv. They don’t have vases and can’t stand them up or take care of them, and they might not want to even if they could, knowing how future clients will feel seeing that. So the flowers will not be displayed prominently and will die prematurely, and she’ll have to throw them out when she leaves for the airport in a couple of days anyway. I’ve talked with a bunch of touring women about it. Gifts they can use right away and/or put in their suitcase to take home with them is generally best kind of gift.

Now, meeting in her home city? That’s different.

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[BenDover69420]

I always just bought candy

They always appreciated it

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

This is rarely feasible for me. Seeing women on tour in my city and giving them flowers means them keeping flowers in their hotel room when other guys show up. I’ve shown up in hotel rooms and seen flowers, and it’s a very not subtle reminder I wasn’t there first. I know it’s true but I do my best to not think about it so I don’t want or need the reminder. And the flowers I’ve seen are always still in their wrappers, usually laying down next to the tv. They don’t have vases and can’t stand them up or take care of them, and they might not want to even if they could, knowing how future clients will feel seeing that. So the flowers will not be displayed prominently and will die prematurely, and she’ll have to throw them out when she leaves for the airport in a couple of days anyway. I’ve talked with a bunch of touring women about it. Gifts they can use right away and/or put in their suitcase to take home with them is generally best kind of gift.

Now, meeting in her home city? That’s different.

However, flowers are fine for outcall because they can take them on the way out.

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