was thinking about this all morning, so I had to put it into writing.
There are actually a few very real ways to get a provider on your team or onboard, if you will - and I say that from personal experience.
I remember how I’ve done it myself over the years. Everything from offering her to go south to warmer countries, to well-timed gifts like Chanel perfumes (No. 5 in particular, and yes, in my experience, women tend to love it).
But here’s the key part that many guys get wrong:
You don’t bring anything on the first meeting.
The first session is not about impressing - it’s about reading. You need to feel her out before you invest emotionally or materially.
Ask yourself a few honest questions after that first meet:
That’s the bottom line question.
If you walk out thinking “She wasn’t mechanical at all, we kissed properly, shared a few laughs, and she genuinely seemed into it” - that’s your green light.
And then, on the second session, that’s when a gift suddenly makes sense. As a signal that says "I could see myself spending more time with you".
I’ve shared specific gift ideas in another post that worked well for me in the past, and timing was always everything.
From there, things tend to shift fast.
There are actually a few very real ways to get a provider on your team or onboard, if you will - and I say that from personal experience.
I remember how I’ve done it myself over the years. Everything from offering her to go south to warmer countries, to well-timed gifts like Chanel perfumes (No. 5 in particular, and yes, in my experience, women tend to love it).
But here’s the key part that many guys get wrong:
You don’t bring anything on the first meeting.
The first session is not about impressing - it’s about reading. You need to feel her out before you invest emotionally or materially.
Ask yourself a few honest questions after that first meet:
- Did she feel genuinely present, or was it purely mechanical?
- Was there natural chemistry, or just routine?
- Did you laugh together?
- Was there eye contact, warmth, smiling?
- If DFK was offered - did it feel mutual, or procedural?
That’s the bottom line question.
If you walk out thinking “She wasn’t mechanical at all, we kissed properly, shared a few laughs, and she genuinely seemed into it” - that’s your green light.
And then, on the second session, that’s when a gift suddenly makes sense. As a signal that says "I could see myself spending more time with you".
I’ve shared specific gift ideas in another post that worked well for me in the past, and timing was always everything.
From there, things tend to shift fast.
