This has been discussed here before, but never in a dedicated thread. It’s a subject we’ve touched on through rants or while focusing on specific providers, but we’ve avoided giving it the attention it deserves. It’s a sensitive issue, but with the current state of the hobby, it’s time we addressed it directly. These conversations are crucial if we want to grow as a community and become better clients.
The discussion about FaceTime verification came up recently when a provider mentioned it on social media, sparking a flood of responses. The reaction from providers was overwhelmingly negative, with many expressing disdain that a client would even ask for FaceTime verification. Some couldn’t comprehend the request, while others placed the blame squarely on clients for failing to do adequate research. These points are valid, and considering how often FaceTime verification is abused, it’s not surprising that providers are wary of it.
Providers have shared their frustrations about how clients misuse what should be a straightforward process. A verification call should ideally be a quick, no-nonsense exchange—a simple "hi and bye" to confirm authenticity. Yet, too often, clients turn these calls into something else entirely. There are reports of clients trying to extend the call into a virtual date, engaging in explicit conversations, and even masturbating during the call. Behavior like this not only crosses boundaries but also undermines the very purpose of verification.
That said, we can’t ignore the fact that scammers are becoming more advanced and brazen. What was once a simple ad on Eros has now evolved into scammers with thousands of followers on X, full-fledged websites, and reposts from legitimate providers. Some even manage to post fake reviews on so-called “trusted” platforms. Their sophistication makes it increasingly difficult to differentiate between legitimate providers and fraudsters.
A quick scroll through social media reveals hundreds, if not thousands, of these scam accounts. Many of them have been flagged in our community repeatedly, but they continue to thrive. The lengths these scammers go to—and the ease with which they fool clients—are why some of us are turning to FaceTime verification as a last line of defense.
Still, I’m unsure whether we, as clients, deserve FaceTime verification to become a standard part of the process. If anything, I believe it should come with an additional fee to keep trolls away. For too long, clients have abused this tool, turning it into a burden for providers rather than a simple means of verification. Unfortunately, the damage has already been done, and what was once a helpful option has become a source of frustration for many.
On the other hand, clients do have resources available to verify providers’ legitimacy. With enough effort and careful research, it’s possible to uncover the information needed to determine whether a provider is genuine. However, it’s undeniable that the process is much more time-consuming and complicated than it used to be.
Despite this, I believe providers should take a moment to consider things from our perspective. Many providers may not realize just how many clients fall victim to scams—it’s a staggering number. If they were more aware of the scale of this problem, they might view FaceTime verification requests in a different light. That said, clients also bear some responsibility for their silence. The lack of open discussion about being scammed is a problem in its own right, and addressing it could help bridge the gap between providers and clients. Though, that's a topic for another time.
The discussion about FaceTime verification came up recently when a provider mentioned it on social media, sparking a flood of responses. The reaction from providers was overwhelmingly negative, with many expressing disdain that a client would even ask for FaceTime verification. Some couldn’t comprehend the request, while others placed the blame squarely on clients for failing to do adequate research. These points are valid, and considering how often FaceTime verification is abused, it’s not surprising that providers are wary of it.
Providers have shared their frustrations about how clients misuse what should be a straightforward process. A verification call should ideally be a quick, no-nonsense exchange—a simple "hi and bye" to confirm authenticity. Yet, too often, clients turn these calls into something else entirely. There are reports of clients trying to extend the call into a virtual date, engaging in explicit conversations, and even masturbating during the call. Behavior like this not only crosses boundaries but also undermines the very purpose of verification.
That said, we can’t ignore the fact that scammers are becoming more advanced and brazen. What was once a simple ad on Eros has now evolved into scammers with thousands of followers on X, full-fledged websites, and reposts from legitimate providers. Some even manage to post fake reviews on so-called “trusted” platforms. Their sophistication makes it increasingly difficult to differentiate between legitimate providers and fraudsters.
A quick scroll through social media reveals hundreds, if not thousands, of these scam accounts. Many of them have been flagged in our community repeatedly, but they continue to thrive. The lengths these scammers go to—and the ease with which they fool clients—are why some of us are turning to FaceTime verification as a last line of defense.
Still, I’m unsure whether we, as clients, deserve FaceTime verification to become a standard part of the process. If anything, I believe it should come with an additional fee to keep trolls away. For too long, clients have abused this tool, turning it into a burden for providers rather than a simple means of verification. Unfortunately, the damage has already been done, and what was once a helpful option has become a source of frustration for many.
On the other hand, clients do have resources available to verify providers’ legitimacy. With enough effort and careful research, it’s possible to uncover the information needed to determine whether a provider is genuine. However, it’s undeniable that the process is much more time-consuming and complicated than it used to be.
Despite this, I believe providers should take a moment to consider things from our perspective. Many providers may not realize just how many clients fall victim to scams—it’s a staggering number. If they were more aware of the scale of this problem, they might view FaceTime verification requests in a different light. That said, clients also bear some responsibility for their silence. The lack of open discussion about being scammed is a problem in its own right, and addressing it could help bridge the gap between providers and clients. Though, that's a topic for another time.
