Anxious Over Cumming Too Quick? Read on

[Sexaddict]

I think we’ve all been there. You finally have a booking with a provider you’re really looking forward to. You prep; shaving, showering, everything. Then...

I think we’ve all been there. You finally have a booking with a provider you’re really looking forward to. You prep; shaving, showering, everything. Then the thoughts start creeping in: “What if I cum too quickly? I can’t do that… maybe I should postpone…”

I’ve had those thoughts plenty of times.
But it always works out.

Holding yourself back because of that anxiety isn’t the solution. In fact, the more you focus on it, the more likely it is to happen. It becomes a self-fulfilling loop.

And let’s be honest, the “jerk off beforehand” trick rarely works. If you’re with someone who genuinely turns you on, your body won’t care what you did an hour earlier.

Finishing quickly in the first round is completely normal. That’s exactly why booking more time—like two hours—makes sense. It gives you space to relax, reset, and actually enjoy the experience without pressure.

The key is simple: don’t try to control everything. Once you’re at an 8/10, there’s no stopping it anyway. So stop overthinking and just enjoy the moment.

Providers have seen it all; guys who last 15+ minutes, and guys who finish in under 30 seconds.

Relax. Show up. Enjoy it. After all, a session - any session with a real woman is better than jerking off.

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[Orton316]

Yep I have been apart of this situation a few times. I book a 30 minute session and I finish in under 5 minutes. One time I was hitting doggy and I feel myself about to bust and I smack her ass to tell her to slow down and she begins ramping up and then I cum earlier than I want too. Either way I had fun in both sessions, just gotta build that stamina and endurance to not cum so early.

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[mrblessed]

I realized I had the "death grip" from jerking off too much so I take a week or more break before I see someone. I do pop half of a Rugiet just to make sure I can stay hard. Can't do full doses because I get BAD headaches. Luckily I learned my limit. So far it has been a good formula for me. Also if I take a full one I can't cum at all!! BUMMER

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[Briguy1875]

The worst thing to do is to not unload when your body is saying it’s time to. Once you lose it it’s hard to get it back. I absolutely love fucking especially when there is great encouragement and enthusiasm from the sw. But fucking for over an hour when you can’t cum because you didn’t 45 minutes before. That kind of sucks as well. The sw wants you to cum. Make her happy and do it.

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[Swytypy]

The worst thing to do is to not unload when your body is saying it’s time to. Once you lose it it’s hard to get it back.

This statement needs so many +1s that it would crash the forum.

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[Hentai_Hibiki]

Better to let one out early so you have more chat and recovery time for round two. Don’t sweat it.

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[theman264]

Dumb question, while you work on lasting longer.

If you do see a provider and you know you aren’t gonna last more than 2-5 minutes. Is that something you let provider know?

This is assuming you’re with someone you know will do MSOG.

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[Sexaddict]

Dumb question, while you work on lasting longer.

If you do see a provider and you know you aren’t gonna last more than 2-5 minutes. Is that something you let provider know?

This is assuming you’re with someone you know will do MSOG.

I wouldn't. These providers has seen it all, guys who lasts 15 minutes and guys who lasts 5 minutes.

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[Swytypy]

If you do see a provider and you know you aren’t gonna last more than 2-5 minutes. Is that something you let provider know?

Honesty is always the best policy. Almost all providers say they love when guys don’t last long because it means they’re so excited and stimulated by her that they can’t control themselves. But definitely make sure MSOG is on the table so you get a second chance.

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[Ithithos]

IMO, just book more time so you can accommodate more than one round. It's your money, and you're the customer. It's not like you're trying to impress the girl. She's not going to date you or give you a freebie, or anything because you went 45 minutes before cumming. It's a strictly transactional relationship so enjoy it for what it is, and if you bust in the first 30 seconds, then enjoy it. Take a breather, drink some water, shoot the shit with the girl to pass time, then fondle her until you're ready to go again. ED pills help with reducing refractory period in my experience. Still try to pleasure the girl, like don't be completely selfish, but there shouldn't be any pressure on you to perform since you're a customer, not a significant other or even a one night stand. Do whatever gives you the most pleasure

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[theman264]

IMO, just book more time so you can accommodate more than one round. It's your money, and you're the customer. It's not like you're trying to impress the girl. She's not going to date you or give you a freebie, or anything because you went 45 minutes before cumming. It's a strictly transactional relationship so enjoy it for what it is, and if you bust in the first 30 seconds, then enjoy it. Take a breather, drink some water, shoot the shit with the girl to pass time, then fondle her until you're ready to go again. ED pills help with reducing refractory period in my experience. Still try to pleasure the girl, like don't be completely selfish, but there shouldn't be any pressure on you to perform since you're a customer, not a significant other or even a one night stand. Do whatever gives you the most pleasure

Yeah appreciate that. I wasn’t trying to imply I was tryna cram it all within a hour session. Wasn’t a problem to get more time.

Just curious what others thought in terms of giving a heads up but it seems like to have a good time and not worry. Just find someone you know is a MSOG unlike a say Richelle Ryan/rachael cavalli.

Appreciate it gents.

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[Mldawgs]

My usual pattern: after a quick initial BJ to really get me going I switch to DATY to get a small reset. Then when we start to fuck, I avoid doing any position where the provider has control during the early part of the session, no cow girl, reverse cowgirl, etc. Start out in mish or doggy where you can slow the pace or take a quick breather to switch positions and get a bit of reset again. Then, when it’s enough already and I want to get some sleep, she can jump on top and ride until I pop.

As others have said, you do have to worry about coming too close and then losing it because it can go away for a long time but I’m pretty good at understanding when I’m even starting to get close to avoid that situation.

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[theeaglekid]

Honesty is always the best policy. Almost all providers say they love when guys don’t last long because it means they’re so excited and stimulated by her that they can’t control themselves. But definitely make sure MSOG is on the table so you get a second chance.

That is exactly what I do and have always done.

I set the expectation so its not a surprise.

Most providers appreciated that I finished quick, as they knew how much I liked them. Ryan Conner especially comes to mind for me on my first meeting with her, and she was highly complimentary of me finishing quick, and MSOG was always a possibility.

But make sure MSOG is on the table, otherwise it can be a long hour! The primary reason I passed on Richelle Ryan was that she was only one shot, Imagine spending 2.2K for ONE hour, only to finish in 5 minutes, and then chat for the remainder ... one of the most expensive one-to-one conversations in the world!

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[djbadboy]

The worst thing to do is to not unload when your body is saying it’s time to. Once you lose it it’s hard to get it back. I absolutely love fucking especially when there is great encouragement and enthusiasm from the sw. But fucking for over an hour when you can’t cum because you didn’t 45 minutes before. That kind of sucks as well. The sw wants you to cum. Make her happy and do it.

This statement needs so many +1s that it would crash the forum.

The real ones know it. Happened to me twice - once each with Tommie Jo and Ana Espinola and I agree

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[djbadboy]

Just curious what others thought

Cowgirl is my weakness so when a girl starts of with that position with me, I just tell her that it's my weakness and I tend to cum quickly so please be careful and gentle with me. My favorite is missionary and if the girl is too hot sometimes I cum quickly, I've learned to control my thrusts to last longer. I told Ana Espinola in missionary that I'm about to cum but I'm loving her pussy so much that I don't want to cum yet, she was so amazing, she told me don't worry we have time and I'll let you go as many times as you'd like, I think that was amazing from her.

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[djbadboy]

My usual pattern: after a quick initial BJ to really get me going I switch to DATY to get a small reset. Then when we start to fuck, I avoid doing any position where the provider has control during the early part of the session, no cow girl, reverse cowgirl, etc. Start out in mish or doggy where you can slow the pace or take a quick breather to switch positions and get a bit of reset again. Then, when it’s enough already and I want to get some sleep, she can jump on top and ride until I pop.

As others have said, you do have to worry about coming too close and then losing it because it can go away for a long time but I’m pretty good at understanding when I’m even starting to get close to avoid that situation.

Exactly me

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