I came across this today, and I’m trying to figure out where to start. I don’t completely agree with everything mentioned, but there are some valid points worth discussing. Many of us have a tendency to do some, if not all, of the things listed, so I want to highlight those and explain why I both agree and disagree with parts of it.First off, many clients don’t read what’s right in front of them. Emails often contain questions that have already been answered on a provider’s website or in community forums. Clients get so eager that they skip over important details, leading to frustration on the provider’s end. Remember, research is key.
There’s no need to be vague or undecided before contacting a provider. You should know what you want before reaching out, whether directly or through an agency. This is different from asking a question you genuinely don’t know the answer to, but such questions shouldn’t play a significant role in your decision to book.
One common question is about BB (bareback) services. It’s better to figure out if this is offered beforehand. If you can’t find the answer, move on to the next provider to avoid getting blacklisted.
Some clients have an inflated sense of self-worth, thinking that being fitter or of a certain race gives them an advantage. While it may matter to some providers, it’s important to stay humble. For many providers, money is more important than appearances.
Complimenting a provider too much is apparently seen as a problem by some. Personally, I’ve never heard of this being an issue. Compliments are usually appreciated, and it’s up to the provider whether they want to enhance the experience based on them. If I have to watch how I compliment someone, the session might be doomed from the start.
Screening and deposits are basics. If you’re not willing to comply, move on to another provider. This is Hobby 101.
When it comes to communication, I don’t usually text or email a provider after we’ve met, unless there’s a bond. Otherwise, I see it as intrusive. However, I understand that staying in contact with some providers can help maintain the relationship.
First impressions matter, so I make sure my emails are grammar-checked and legible before sending them. Not all providers focus on this, but it seems to matter to some.
I’ve never heard of clients sliding into providers’ DMs just to chat, but it sounds like something we might do—and should probably stop. It reflects poorly on all of us. However, following providers on social media is essential for staying informed.
I used to engage in the shoulda-coulda-woulda, but I’ve learned it’s not helpful for the provider. It wastes their time, and if it doesn’t lead to a booking, it could hurt your chances in the future.
No disrespect, but I’m not here to play captain save-a-hoe. I’ll tip, give gifts, and make a provider feel special, but that’s where it ends for me. Some guys want to go further, and there are providers willing to take up that sugar baby role as their retirement plan. That’s not my scene, but more power to those who are into it.
I rarely ask providers to come to my area anymore. If I can do that, I might as well sponsor a tour or arrange a Fly Me to You (FMTY). It’s the only option for some of us, but it’s not for everyone. Take the time to save up so you can sponsor a tour or do a FMTY; it’ll mean a lot more to providers.
