Jerking off too much affecting performance in sex

[tinman]

I know I may have pleased myself too much during the days when I am not having sex but has anyone else experienced the loss of sensitivity to the point you...

I know I may have pleased myself too much during the days when I am not having sex but has anyone else experienced the loss of sensitivity to the point you cannot cum during sex ? I was disappointed when I cannot cum inside the girl ( with the bag) and she has to jerk me off twice during a 2 hours session. I had no problem with getting hard or staying hard but just cannot get myself off in any position and the provider was someone I have seen before ( who is very accommodating and did not mock or joke about my situation)

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[Makavv]

Lay off the porn and your hands for a while. Chronic jerking rewires your brain and alters your sexual performance.

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[ghost0]

Download the Manhood app and use it to set abstinence goals for yourself. Use privacy restrictions on your phone as needed.

I suffer from the dreaded death grip syndrome as well so I typically abstain for as long as possible before a date (at least a week). Good Luck! It’s not easy to admit these issues and even harder trying to fix them.

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[inspectahjamescahtah]

Yeah the only thing you can do to avoid the side effects from chronic masturbation is to go cold turkey. There's no other way around it.

That being said, I've found it helpful to ease your decrease. So if you jack off 3 times a day (21 times a week), go for 18 times next week, then 16, then 15, then 12, 10, 9, etc.

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[Sexaddict]

Oh, well, I’ve never had that problem. I’d say I’m more over-sensitive when it comes down to it… sadly.

I know this isn’t directly related to getting hard, but I did suffer from porn-induced ED before. I went cold turkey for about three weeks, and everything went back to normal.

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[tinman]

So funny thing about lack of stimulation - I once refrained myself from jerking for over 10 days and problem I had was getting hard and staying hard as if the soldier down there went on strike after a week or so of not getting any stimulation. I was lucky the provider was cool but least to say I didn’t enjoy the session as much - I managed to cum in the bag but only 65% hard and cannot keep fucking at all as I cannot get hard after I came ( after not jerking or having sex for 10 days). A week later I had sex again with another girl ( also covered) - still running into the issue of getting hard and staying hard.

It was not until almost days later when I had BBFS CIP with my favorite PS that was I was able to restore my manhood and confidence.

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[oc.businessman.33]

It’s all mental. Overstimulation or overconsumption of anything is never ideal, balance is key. Everything in moderation.

The best way to prepare before a session is to focus on rest, light nutrition, and hydration the day prior. On the day itself, start with a relaxing shower and take time to center yourself. Spend 30–45 minutes meditating, focusing only on calm and darkness, clearing away distractions.

By entering and maintaining a relaxed, composed state of mind, you’ll be surprised at how much more effective and present you become.

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[Sexaddict]

So funny thing about lack of stimulation - I once refrained myself from jerking for over 10 days and problem I had was getting hard and staying hard as if the soldier down there went on strike after a week or so of not getting any stimulation. I was lucky the provider was cool but least to say I didn’t enjoy the session as much - I managed to cum in the bag but only 65% hard and cannot keep fucking at all as I cannot get hard after I came ( after not jerking or having sex for 10 days). A week later I had sex again with another girl ( also covered) - still running into the issue of getting hard and staying hard.

It was not until almost days later when I had BBFS CIP with my favorite PS that was I was able to restore my manhood and confidence.

In my experience, 10 days is too much as well — I’ve had that happen before. It’s about keeping the rhythm below the belt.

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[nzo]

I think it's affected me, I agree there are mental aspects but I do get a bit of a numb sensation depending.

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[okokok]

The people saying it’s mental are mostly wrong. There might be some mental, but it’s mostly physical. You literally destroy the nerves in your dick. You have to wait for them to grow back.

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[Joel Goodson]

I know I may have pleased myself too much during the days when I am not having sex but has anyone else experienced the loss of sensitivity to the point you cannot cum during sex ? I was disappointed when I cannot cum inside the girl ( with the bag) and she has to jerk me off twice during a 2 hours session. I had no problem with getting hard or staying hard but just cannot get myself off in any position and the provider was someone I have seen before ( who is very accommodating and did not mock or joke about my situation)

Listen to me.

Masterbate using your imagination, then you'll break the spell.

Then you'll be back to normal for a period of time and this problem may come up again in the future LOL.... but then it's the same solution.

I recommend during your porn fast executing this strategy in the shower when you're relaxed and your mind can be in a semi-meditative state. Gotta rewire those neurotransmitters.

Btw, not a break from porn, just with using it to finish. You can start with porn but don't finish with it LOL.

Trust me. I've gone through this a bunch of times and can always cure myself.

Also, I have a been jerking off like 5 times a day for like 30 years or whatever, your dick isn't going to fall off as someone above alluded to re nerves up there lol

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[tinman]

This has happened to me before and it sort of went away on its own but I did manage to hold off on jerking for a bit. Not sure if it is hormone or work stress I just don’t get easily aroused by the typical porn anymore ( maybe I have seen all the pornstars I used to jerk off to and after fantasy fulfilled and I am talking to them on a weekly or daily basis as friends the fantasy is gone). I almost have to spend a lot of time looking for new porn or pornstars to get me excited again.

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[theeaglekid]

Agree with concensus of the comments and from personal experience. I have recently got with a partner and prior to any intamcy, I stopped all forms of porn for 1 week prior. Worked wonders for me, and shockingly was able to last more than I expected.

I regularly got hard thinking of intimate situations though however, but refrained from all out wanking.

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[tinman]

I think what is really troubling me is I get better orgasm from jerking than sex.. it is a problem

On the bright side I am saving a lot of money LOL

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[Sexaddict]

This has happened to me before and it sort of went away on its own but I did manage to hold off on jerking for a bit. Not sure if it is hormone or work stress I just don’t get easily aroused by the typical porn anymore ( maybe I have seen all the pornstars I used to jerk off to and after fantasy fulfilled and I am talking to them on a weekly or daily basis as friends the fantasy is gone). I almost have to spend a lot of time looking for new porn or pornstars to get me excited again.

Do you watch super high-intense porn? I know I do — my dopamine levels shoot sky-high. The more extreme, the better. BUT I limit the extreme videos to a maximum of twice per week. I’m trying to get it down to once, since it isn’t good.

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[tinman]

Do you watch super high-intense porn? I know I do — my dopamine levels shoot sky-high. The more extreme, the better. BUT I limit the extreme videos to a maximum of twice per week. I’m trying to get it down to once, since it isn’t good.

It really depends on my mood and boredom to be honest as the frequency varies.

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[shion]

I think what is really troubling me is I get better orgasm from jerking than sex.. it is a problem

On the bright side I am saving a lot of money LOL

Here too.

I go on a minimal 3 day " fast" ( no porn or jacking off ) prior to a meet up.

Here's a weird one:`no matter how a chick tries, I can't cum by her hand , mouth or inside her.

I literally have to jack off with my own hand onto her body....and doing that I have to practice certain mental gymnastics in my mind to ejaculate.

Maybe too much porn / masturbationin the past has " programmed" my mind/ dick.

It can be tedious at times with providers.

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[tinman]

Here too.

I go on a minimal 3 day " fast" ( no porn or jacking off ) prior to a meet up.

Here's a weird one:`no matter how a chick tries, I can't cum by her hand , mouth or inside her.

I literally have to jack off with my own hand onto her body....and doing that I have to practice certain mental gymnastics in my mind to ejaculate.

Maybe too much porn / masturbationin the past has " programmed" my mind/ dick.

It can be tedious at times with providers.

I ran into this problem again today - the chick is a supermodel quality hot and I cannot cum inside no matter how hot and erotic her dirty talk game was and how hard she tried with all the moves - I could not cum inside her. Eventually she has to finish me off with her mouth .. I could not stay hard in round two and ended up just cuddling. It was a serious disappointment for me because the girl was doing so much more than any pornstar I have met ( she is a fashion model) and I could not cum or stay hard.

Time to check my testosterone..

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[shion]

I ran into this problem again today - the chick is a supermodel quality hot and I cannot cum inside no matter how hot and erotic her dirty talk game was and how hard she tried with all the moves - I could not cum inside her. Eventually she has to finish me off with her mouth .. I could not stay hard in round two and ended up just cuddling. It was a serious disappointment for me because the girl was doing so much more than any pornstar I have met ( she is a fashion model) and I could not cum or stay hard.

Time to check my testosterone..

I've had my testosterone checked for the last few months. They tell me they're normal

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[St_John_Of_Vegas]

I'm gonna try

The people saying it’s mental are mostly wrong. There might be some mental, but it’s mostly physical. You literally destroy the nerves in your dick. You have to wait for them to grow back.

Erections and orgasms lie at the forefront common ground of the Parasympathetic/ Sympathetic system functioning--in other words bodily functions you control (Like your arm movement) and functions that automatically happen that you can't control (Like your heart rate, or a fever)....They most certainly occur in your brain specifically the hypothalamus for the parasympathetic erection part to the cerebral cortex that prohibits the parasympathetic, and inhibits the sympathetic.

Add to that trauma, severe illness/ stress, injury, shame, guilt, or medications like Dilaudid, plus let's not forget age and Hedonic Adaptation which again is all part of the mental, and what I would assume is what you meant by "destroyed nerves"......93% mental, the rest is enzymes that convert other enzymes that split off into two new enzymes that release potassium smooths relaxes and engorges tissue, or opens up the Urethra and releases semen in the case of ejaculation

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