I've been successful a few times (a few times out of hundreds, to be fair). I'll give my breakdown that works for me that I learned over the years:
1. Your IG profile. First things first: if you are asking models for meet ups and you have a blank profile picture and no posts, then you're not going to get a response, period. If you keep your IG private, your profile picture better blow her out of the water (not to mention that picture has to be YOU). If your IG is public, you need to keep your IG up to date with consistent, clear, high quality, good, and more importantly, RECENT, photos/videos of yourself. Your profile should show who you are, your hobbies, and, most importantly, your lifestyle. For some models, just a normal person can be enough, but if you want to really hit the high end ones, you have to flaunt your lifestyle a little more. Have some vacation photos in exotic countries, try doing risky things like cliff diving, riding motorcycles, etc. In general, women like men who know how to have fun. If you're a corporate accountant and all you show is you in a suit that looks like you just got off of work on a Tuesday, that doesn't scream fun, it screams boring af. Again, that could work for some, but if you want a higher success rate, put in more fun in your profile.
IMPORTANT: don't even think about step 2 unless you have this down. I guarantee you you will have a ZERO percent success rate if you hit up a model and you have a blank profile, 0 posts, 0 followers, and following a few people. Even worse is if the woman you hit up is the only woman you follow. That just screams harassing stalker behavior.
2. Scouting - Great. Now that you got your profile up to date and you're consistent posting posts and stories, you can start hitting up women. There are a few things I do before I DM a model though. First, I search on this site to see if a model I want to fuck has been discussed here before. If so and someone here has seen her, that's a great sign. I hit that guy up and see how he did it and what her rates are. That's the shortcut way of doing things. If she's not discussed here (and more often she's not), I try to see if:
-1). She travels a lot. A lot of women hate paying shit themselves. They want a man to pay for it.
-2). Her pictures are mostly of herself in luxurious outfits/merch. Normal women usually go on trips/take pictures with their friends, or are tagged in pictures where they're with their friends. Providing is a pretty lonely occupation a lot of the time.
-3). Her bio has a pinned location on it. This shows where she is based, or she's currently located.
-4). Her bio has a booking email. This is to get away from the IG DM noise. Also, emails do a slightly better job at finding spam emails than IG DMs.
-5). Who she's following. Is she following pornstars? Other providers? If so, chances are she probably does that herself as well.
-6). If she does OF/Fansly/SP. The new 2025 market is you need to monetize everything about you. Providers will use OF/Fansly/SP to monetize themselves virtually, which is significantly easier for them since they don't actually have to see you (though putting in the work to create a profile and following on there is a whole different story).
-7). What her job is, especially if her job is not really shown/known but has items or attended events that require a LOT of money. For example, if she works as an assistant at some firm, she's not raking in enough money to buy 10 highly exclusive Chanel bags. If she's a stripper, she will promote her workplace to get new clients.
If you're 7/7, good chance she provides. If only partial hits, use your own judgment. If no hits, just beware. It's risky and you could be blocked. Or worse, be accused of soliciting (though that doesn't happen often, especially if you're discreet/smart about it, which I will discuss later). However, if you're an athlete, things are different, but then again, if you're an athlete, why are you here reading this? Go to Lourdes, pay that fucking entrance fee, and just fuck and network from there.
3). Messaging - You made your profile. You have a list of women who you think are very likely to provide (that you didn't read about on EA). Now it's time to message. Profile pics do matter a little more here, but you had a fire profile picture on step 1 already so don't worry too much about it, unless you really want to find a way to stand out. You need to look from a woman's perspective on this, especially if said woman has a 6-7 figure following. They will get thousands, and I mean, THOUSANDS, of DMs...a DAY. There was one provider I was chilling with and she showed me her General DMs on IG. Every time she refreshed every 10 seconds, there would be about 5-10 new DM's that would pop up, and a few of them were verified, well-known people. You need to know your competition. Cold messaging her in the DMs will not get you a high success rate, even if your profile is fire. My advice? Comment under her posts that aren't comments like "omg you're beautiful", heart eye emojis, fire emojis, or the "I want to marry you please message me" type cringe shit. Comment something funny/creative/unique that will get her attention. Trust me, these women, even the ones with 7 figure followings, read comments because they're, like you (probably), insecure about what people are talking about as fuck. If you say something that makes her laugh, she will remember. Now, this is where that fire profile picture comes in. A good profile picture will leave an impression. That's EXACTLY what you want. She'll check your profile out. She realizes the type of amazing person you are. She' s intrigued. See where I'm going with here? This is why it's SO important for you to accomplish Step 1, and honestly, that's the longest, and hardest, step in this process. From there, comment a few times here and there, then start leaving messages under stories that follow the same idea. If she is actually a provider, she WILL read DMs. Why? Because it's a business for her and she's constantly looking for new business opportunities aka new clients. If she already has a liking to you, it will be a lot easier for you to get in touch with her. I will say although this part takes less effort on your part personally, this step can take a while depending on the model. Some take a few days. Some can take months. It depends on how bad you want to fuck that model, and if she's worth the hassle you're putting in.
4). Closing the deal - Okay. You made your profile. You have a list of women who you think provides. You went through the process of commenting, messaging, etc. Now time to close. This part is difficult because there are literally zero shortcuts to this. You can fake pictures, mass message hundreds of women, and you can get some hits. Closing is a whole different story. In sales, closing is the most difficult part of the whole job, because you have to find a way to turn interest into commitment, where "maybe" becomes "yes." Closing forces a decision, and decisions create tension. You have to think from the provider: the risk, the money, etc. Even if the offer looks amazing, commitment can trigger risk aversion, and trust me, when you're dealing with potential providers, this is a HUGE obstacle to overcome. There are so many things that women have to think about before they commit to having a stranger stick their meat into their hole. After all, for both you and the woman, it's very personal. Close too soon? She feels rushed. Wait too long - you'll be seen as a time waster and she'll block you. The reason there are no shortcuts is because knowing the sweet spot requires a lot of emotional intelligence and experience, and you cannot fake either. Those take a LOT of time and practice. Trust me, you're going to fail a LOT in this, and if you aren't comfortable with failure and rejection, then you can just go isolate yourself in your bedroom and rant about how women have unrealistically high standards in red pill forums.
So for me, I know myself as well as anyone. I'm an ugly ass tall lanky white dude with the skin complexion of bleached mayonnaise that burns under 2 minutes of constant sun exposure in the middle of a NYC winter. I'm not going to try to close the deal like I'm fucking Chris Brown. I have to be smarter about it. I ask them to dinner, or to a boat (if I'm in Miami, the Marina in LA, or the Hamptons in Long Island, and because I guess women in their 20s simply love boats for some odd fucking reason but whatever I have to leave my opinions and personal thoughts at the door if I want to be good at closing). I have to offer something that they will like before they think about sleeping with me. Some of you don't have to do this and can just ask directly, and I understand that (you handsome fuckers I wish I had your life lmao jk) but I do and it works for me. Ask them out to dinner in the city. If they're located elsewhere, offer to fly them out to your city. Offer to book them to a nice hotel or airbnb. Take them out in a nice car. The whole 9 yards. Once they realize you offer something to them and they know you're not a psycho like Patrick Bateman, they're much, MUCH more inclined to sleep with you, and in that moment...ask them DISCREETLY but as close to explicitly as possible (please do this, especially if you live in the USA or any other country that explicitly bans prostitution: IG messages leave evidence so do your due diligence) that you're going to offer them an X amount for X amount of their "time" AFTER you wine and dine them. Trust me, women are trying to swindle you. The closer you are to explicitly telling them, the clearer they will get the picture. And besides, one thing women love that men do, is taking charge and setting up an itinerary for them. Women, especially beautiful women who have been handed everything since birth, do NOT like to think logistically about anything. There's a reason why men completely dominate the logistics industry.
5). Speed Bumps - the great General Dwight D. Eisenhower had a quote that is highly relevant here: "In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable."
Things can change. Things get more expensive. Hidden costs emerge. She gets sick. Her flight gets delayed. She lost her luggage at the baggage claim. Her uber driver crashed. She has a change of heart. etc. etc. etc. You have, HAVE to plan for EVERYTHING. You may have the best itinerary planned out in the world, but the world has ways to throw the nastiest curveballs at you. So, you have to learn how to adjust your schedule on the fly. The most important part of this part, is to never, EVER lose control of your emotions. Imagine I had the best dinner, and then when it came time, she didn't feel like it. It's a FRUSTRATING thing to go through, since you put in ALL that work for this to happen. However, the last thing I want to do is to let the emotions get the best of me. This destroys 3 things:
1). Her trust and feelings for me. If I lose control, she puts me in the "abuser" category, and that's not a category you want to be when she just met you.
2). I ruined providing for her. You notice how providers immediately quit after one bad experience? Yeah, I don't want to be that guy that ruins it for everyone else.
3). Access to her friends. She could have introduced me to her hot ass friends on IG that were potentially also providing, but after that, why would she?
So please, PLEASE do not lose control of your emotions. Punching the big red button that says "Launch" just because you got your feelings hurt is the last thing you want to be doing. You could potentially be the first client that a model has, and that one experience could make or break her in the world of providing. Do not be that guy that ruins it for everyone else.
2 other advice I have:
-Video calls. This is a great way for me to connect with potential providers. This is why I use SextPanther/Mynx on a daily basis. Yes, it's expensive, but I have the funds to talk to many at once without thinking about going into serious debt, so it works for me. It may not for you, however, since it is such an expensive hobby. This way, providers can see what you look like and who you are as a person. If you're cool and they like you, you can almost skip everything I said for steps 1-3, since they already know what you look like.
-Networking: The reason why I am comfortable with plenty of IG models, is because I already have a network under my belt from when I first started. Think about it this way: if you're an IG model, would you want to see a guy that has a 1,000 followers but nobody in your circle knows that person, or someone who only has 200 followers, but 7 of your closest friends in the industry know who he is? You're going to take the latter, more likely than not. This is why having your own network matters. It doesn't really matter where you start, as long as you do start creating that network. Trust me, the networking skills you gain here will also be highly relevant when networking in your professional life, because you will realize how powerful it really is. Honestly, the first few providers you meet could often end up being a means to an end to a provider you truly want. Personally, I think that's kind of shitty, since I am still good friends with the first providers I have seen in my life, but at the end of the day, it is also a business, but just know some providers do take some things like this personally.
Great. This was long. I didn't really bother to proofread it so there may be typos here and there. If you need me to clarify something, just ask below. Also, can someone tell me if Maddy Cheary is actually providing?
