Everyone knows disrespect isn’t something I tolerate. I don’t like seeing it or being part of it in any way. So when I do come across it, I feel the need to call it out—not for drama’s sake, but because sometimes a lesson needs to be learned. Whether those involved take it well or not doesn’t matter much to me, just as long as the point gets across. That’s why when I saw a provider speaking publicly about a client’s hygiene, I felt the need to say something.
Now, I could’ve easily taken a screenshot of her post. I could’ve posted it here and been just as disrespectful as she was. But I’d rather not. I’d rather talk about the post to point out the irony—because while the provider wasn’t necessarily wrong, she might not be the best person to speak on hygiene, of all things.
The post read:
“If I ever meet you, don’t come wearing a T-shirt and shorts like a ragamuffin. You’re an adult—dress like one. Goodness gracious! Have an attempt at civility, people. Also, have people forgotten about hygiene and overall maintenance?”
When I read this, I was confused—not because she was addressing client hygiene. That part is perfectly valid. As clients, hygiene should be top-tier before we even leave the house. It’s one of the few non-negotiables providers ask for (besides respecting their rates). That part didn’t bother me at all. What threw me off was who was saying it—because this very provider has had rumors surrounding her hygiene in the past.
Again, I’m not naming names. That’s not what this is about. I’m just trying to understand how someone with a history—true or not—of being talked about for the same issue can turn around and shame a client so publicly. It just feels like the pot calling the kettle black. And it’s hard to believe she doesn’t know about the talk that circulated back then.
Now, I am trying to see it from her perspective. She’s a provider, and she expects her clients to show up a certain way. Fair enough. Coming fresh and clean is a given—there shouldn’t even be a need to mention it, considering what’s about to take place. As for the T-shirt and shorts, I get it. Personally, I wouldn’t show up like that. I believe the occasion calls for something a bit more presentable—business casual at the very least. That said, I also know there are providers out there who don’t care much about what a client is wearing. I haven’t met them, but I know they exist.
To be clear, I’m not trying to disrespect this woman. There are respectful ways to let someone know they need to step their game up hygiene-wise. She’s on her platform, and she’ll say whatever she wants—she does it all the time. But to me, this particular post came off more like a public shaming than a provider venting a real concern. This provider isn't wrong in her post, I just don't believe she should be pointing fingers when one has been on her for a long time.
I know not everyone will agree with me—and that’s fine. I just needed to get this off my chest.
