Providers asking for tips/gifts/handouts/advances

[dob18]

Lucky you lol. Now I wonder if Aubree has a history of this stuff with people…

*raises hand*

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[PorkysReturn]

....all these providers kinda do this guys lol

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[Stayin’ Alive]

*raises hand*

So this is like a common thing for her then is what I’m getting now.

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[dob18]

....all these providers kinda do this guys lol

surprisingly i've only had two - both younger. never been hit up once by more mature providers. YMMV.

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[Ch3vyh0tr0d]

I guess when I finally get to see aubree ill have to keep my number to myself haha

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[Ch3vyh0tr0d]

surprisingly i've only had two - both younger. never been hit up once by more mature providers. YMMV.

Yea I've only seen kitt so far and shes never once asked me for a dime closest she came was someone cashapp her with a name similar to mine so hit me on x and was like "is this you" after I explained it was not she and still have like a 5 minute conversation

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[Swytypy]

Aubree is an incredible provider and an absolute sweetheart of a human being. She’s one of my favorites and I’ll be happy to see her over and over.

Having said that, she is terrible at responding to texts and has a combination of bad money management mixed with extreme selflessness and generosity for family members, and has on a number of occasions asked for people to make donations to her CashApp on X and IG, as well as through texts.

It doesn’t change how I feel about her, but as with the woman who this thread was about, I will only spend my money on her to sponsor a tour or book her.

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[dob18]

Aubree is an incredible provider and an absolute sweetheart of a human being. She’s one of my favorites and I’ll be happy to see her over and over.

Having said that, she is terrible at responding to texts and has a combination of bad money management mixed with extreme selflessness and generosity for family members, and has on a number of occasions asked for people to make donations to her CashApp on X and IG, as well as through texts.

It doesn’t change how I feel about her, but as with the woman who this thread was about, I will only spend my money on her to sponsor a tour or book her.

100% Aubree is great and I've seen her a couple of times. I'm not mad at her for it, but one of those fool me once, fool me twice moments lol.

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[Ch3vyh0tr0d]

Aubree is an incredible provider and an absolute sweetheart of a human being. She’s one of my favorites and I’ll be happy to see her over and over.

Having said that, she is terrible at responding to texts and has a combination of bad money management mixed with extreme selflessness and generosity for family members, and has on a number of occasions asked for people to make donations to her CashApp on X and IG, as well as through texts.

It doesn’t change how I feel about her, but as with the woman who this thread was about, I will only spend my money on her to sponsor a tour or book her.

Well the replying to texts i can't really understand but the generosity for family members I can understand I've been guilty of that myself in the past

Either way really glad it worked out for you homie

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[Sexaddict]

I don’t know where it’ll go from here, but this is the absolute best response I could have asked for.

It will all work out, especially when she put that emoji at the end. It reminds me of my former SB - now, just a regular "ATF".
She still says thank you, every time we talk, for the things I gave her 3 years ago.

The response is perfect from her, you'll still be in communication with her.

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[Townbizz54]

I would say that the moment she asks for money is the Moment you should put your guard up. The ones on my roster that I would consider help like this all have earned trust over the years with small things that lead to bigger things.

Such as buy a girl lingerie, yes it’s a gift.
Send me some pics don’t make me ask
Helping with a bill, putting it to end the next date don’t make me beg to see you when time time comes don’t make me remind you I have you a grand 2 months ago to cover a car repair

If they can’t do the small things like that like any normal person would do, they can’t be trusted with 3-5k unfortunately
Which is to be expected in this

One of the girls I see often and I made an argument last year for long planned date, a bout a month before she had a flood in a rental and needed about 5k in emergency repairs, I called my guys got it fixed that week(for a huge discount)
we turned a quick overnight into a weekend, about 6 weeks before our date, the week of the date I was served with a lawsuit and had to put a lawyer on retainer it was a mess, she she knew something was up, asked I told her. She got up put the envelope I’d given her earlier in my bag and said Handel business the money in a coupe months will be cool with the holiday you’re good for it. Time came she was made whole, sent to the spa as a thank you and was given something towards our next date which finally happened a couple weeks ago. There was never mention of it again of zero concerns her not seeing me.

This is rare this is uncommon, it came from 5 years of knowing eachother.

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[Swytypy]

I would say that the moment she asks for money is the Moment you should put your guard up. The ones on my roster that I would consider help like this all have earned trust over the years with small things that lead to bigger things.

Such as buy a girl lingerie, yes it’s a gift.
Send me some pics don’t make me ask
Helping with a bill, putting it to end the next date don’t make me beg to see you when time time comes don’t make me remind you I have you a grand 2 months ago to cover a car repair

If they can’t do the small things like that like any normal person would do, they can’t be trusted with 3-5k unfortunately
Which is to be expected in this

One of the girls I see often and I made an argument last year for long planned date, a bout a month before she had a flood in a rental and needed about 5k in emergency repairs, I called my guys got it fixed that week(for a huge discount)
we turned a quick overnight into a weekend, about 6 weeks before our date, the week of the date I was served with a lawsuit and had to put a lawyer on retainer it was a mess, she she knew something was up, asked I told her. She got up put the envelope I’d given her earlier in my bag and said Handel business the money in a coupe months will be cool with the holiday you’re good for it. Time came she was made whole, sent to the spa as a thank you and was given something towards our next date which finally happened a couple weeks ago. There was never mention of it again of zero concerns her not seeing me.

This is rare this is uncommon, it came from 5 years of knowing eachother.

I don’t believe this woman was asking for that much money. She made it pretty clear it was for a few Uber rides because she recently lost her car and was waiting for a paycheck to arrive any day. And the last time she’d asked, she wasn’t asking for a ton either. It’s the fact that it was the second request when we hadn’t seen each other in a very long time and we’re having difficulty trying to plan a next meet. Giving money in advance for a future meet is not something I’m comfortable doing except for sponsored tours, where the booking is in Travelocity in my name and I’ve paid for travel insurance. There are only a couple of women I would 100% trust sending money to in advance if that were necessary, where we have a legitimate relationship and aren’t just provider/client. The woman I wrote this post about isn’t one of them.

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[Joel Goodson]

I could use some advice. I got hit up today by a provider I saw once last year for some cash to help tide her over while waiting for a paycheck. She’s not in mainstream anymore so isn’t really affected by the PASS hold. I’ve been trying to sponsor a tour for her for a while. She’s sometimes very responsive to texts, sometimes goes radio silent for weeks or longer.

This is the second time she asked me for cash. The first time was when we were pretty engaged in discussions about the sponsored tour a few months ago and it felt a bit opportunistic at the time, but I offered a small-ish CashApp in the hopes that it would grease the wheels to help seal the deal. It didn’t.

Having her ask a second time today right after I reached out to her for the first time in weeks feels a bit ick and I don’t want to give her anything because I don’t want to be seen as a “simp”, a wallet or set the expectation that she can do this any time she wants or needs. But I’d still like to sponsor a tour and see her because we got along really well and I think she’d be fun to spend a day with. I just don’t want to be blunt or hurtful or sound selfish or dicky in my response.

What do you guys think? Should I just say no and forget about her? Should I try to find a way to say no politely? Should I say yes and do this a second time but somehow indicate this is it?

This happens all the time and my response is..... "I'm happy to pay for your time when you're in town and we meet, and I do hope to see you again, but I don't want to engage in a financial relationship with someone I don't see regularly".

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[Swytypy]

This happens all the time and my response is..... "I'm happy to pay for your time when you're in town and we meet, and I do hope to see you again, but I don't want to engage in a financial relationship with someone I don't see regularly".

I very much appreciate this response, and I’m going to keep that in my back pocket for the future. I don’t think it would’ve worked in this case since I’d already given her something once before and was trying to sponsor her, not book her.

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[dob18]

This happens all the time and my response is..... "I'm happy to pay for your time when you're in town and we meet, and I do hope to see you again, but I don't want to engage in a financial relationship with someone I don't see regularly".

First of all, where were you when I started this and made some mistakes?! Secondly, that fucking username & avatar crack me up every. single. time. I can just hear "time of your life, eh kid?" haha

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[Joel Goodson]

First of all, where were you when I started this and made some mistakes?! Secondly, that fucking username & avatar crack me up every. single. time. I can just hear "time of your life, eh kid?" haha

An UTR i hooked up with a few years back hit me up for $500 and said we can use it for the next meeting.... this was a few weeks after the 1st. I sent it.

Then she did come to town and we used it as a credit so it was cool.

Then 2 weeks later she texted me using my incorrect name and I realized what she was doing.

So I dropped that line and it worked. Then a bunch of other women asked the same and I kept dropping the line and it always worked.

So you learn from past mistakes.

Hopefully I can spare someone the same mistake I've made lol

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[Swytypy]

Secondly, that fucking username & avatar crack me up every. single. time. I can just hear "time of your life, eh kid?" haha

We talked about this when he and I first met up in December. It might literally be the most perfect username in the history of usernames.

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[dob18]

We talked about this when he and I first met up in December. It might literally be the most perfect username in the history of usernames.

You re-watch that movie these days and go "that's what a teen comedy was back in thr day??" jump started an entire generation of deviants haha

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[DDguy69]

run as fast as you can, .... if tips, debit cards, rent, mortgage, anything like that comes up from the woman.

if it does you are getting worked lol


had it broguht up with 3 girls,

one brought it up after some dates, and never brought it up again, cause she knew that once it was a mistake (albeit I did give her some, and she could tell by my fumbling it was not a subject I liked, I was surprised). one mentioned a couple of times, and I simply said I don't do that. one brought it up once and I told her bluntly but politely no and we actually both laughed, saw her again and it never came up.

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[Partherram]

I have some sugar babies who ask for help like this here and there like car broke down, rent due etc. I always tell them I can only do cash in person since all my digital transactions are monitored by family and I can’t risk it. One of my favrt sb got slightly upset once after I said i can’t with my script, but later I explained my situation, I sent her a pic of the Beats headphones I bought for her. It made her smile and she came back without any awkwardness understood it and apologized for pressuring me.

I’ve set this rule for myself , never to send money digitally to anyone to maintain balance, respect, and peace. My advice: don’t do it. Just tell her you’ll help with the tour and in person through gifts or arrangements, but not by sending cash directly.

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