This hobby is absolutely incredible—one of the best in the world. It’s all about experiences, NO REGRETS. Okay, that might sound a bit cheesy, but it’s true.
After being active for over ten years and meeting providers from what feels like every continent, I can confidently say that there’s a universal truth: what most of them want is a gentleman who knows how to take charge. Confidence, control, and a dominant presence—much like in
Fifty Shades of Grey—go a long way.
That said, experience has taught me some important lessons, and I want to share a few pitfalls I encountered in my early years so you gentlemen, especially the newer ones can avoid them.
1. Play It Cool – Always
One of the biggest mistakes I made when starting out was overthinking everything. My legs would shake every time the girl opened the door. I set my expectations too high, put pressure on myself, and let nerves take over.
The best approach? Stay relaxed. Trust me, she’ll feel far more comfortable if you act cool and composed. Whether you’re being yourself or playing a role, it doesn’t really matter—it’s all about first impressions.
And that’s another unique aspect of this hobby: the ability to step into a different version of yourself. The woman standing in front of you doesn’t know you, and you don’t know her. In that moment, you’re on completely even ground. It’s a fresh start every time, and that’s part of the excitement.
Even now, after hundreds of encounters, my legs don’t shake anymore, but my heart still races—though it's in the best way possible.
2. Trust Your Instincts
A girl may have ten glowing reviews, with clients singing her praises, but if something feels off when you look at her pictures or read her ad, trust your gut. This is indeed true with regular providers.
Maybe the photos look overly edited, or there’s something in the way she presents herself that doesn’t sit right. If you have even a slight hesitation, listen to it. More often than not, your instincts are right.
3. Use Every Minute of Your Time
If you’ve booked an hour, use the full hour. If you’ve booked two, enjoy every moment. A lot of gentlemen finish early and awkwardly cut the session short. Don’t.
Take your time between rounds. If she’s into it, kiss her deeply, go down on her etc. The best sessions are the ones where you’re fully present and engaged.
4. Take Charge—She Wants You To
After speaking with countless providers over the years, one theme has been consistent: they want the client to lead. More often than not, she’s just as nervous on the inside as you are—if not more.
Confidence puts her at ease. It makes her feel safe, respected, and, most importantly, makes for a better experience for both of you. Show her that you know what you’re doing, and even if you don’t? Step into the role and own it.
Final Thoughts
To sum it up:
- Play it cool—confidence is key.
- Trust your gut—if something feels off, it probably is.
- Use all your time—don’t rush, savor the moment.
- Take charge—she wants you to lead.
Experience will sharpen these skills over time, but the sooner you embrace them, the more rewarding this journey will be.
