Saw a local lady today for very cheap. She was nice and excited for it all. but idk i just wasn't feeling it. I do take anxiety meds and anti depessants so it can affect my sex drive. I tried to relax and get into it but couldn't. Maybe I was just not attracted to her? Idk I thought maybe she was on drugs too but idk.. I eventually stopped and told her I couldn't do it and we just talked. i'm glad I gave her the money . it seemed and sounded like she needed it.. After this experience, I'm not sure if I'd spend more for a more upscale lady. I already have issues and fear when experiencing intimacy with a woman so maybe that contributed?. After today though , I just don't know. I did not enjoy this experience at all. I don't feel bad, but it just feels like it wasnt worth it. Thoughts? Is this just a you get what you pay for? I have done a few facetime shows with adult stars I liked and I just could not bring myself to enjoy that either.. I ended up just talking to them too. One was even suprised saying "Are you sure you don't want me to do something so you can Masturbate?" I'm 30 years old and I have a lot of bad experiences relating to sex growing up and in my 20s. i'm not very experienced and I just don't know what I'm looking for. This experience made me think that even if I was very attracted to the woman i could not enjoy myself. Just looking for advice or some general thoughts. Thanks!
Ok you sound like you got a serious trauma history going on esp when it comes to sex. I could be wrong but that’s what’s coming to mind.
I can tell you from personal experience that escorts are the ones who gave me my confidence in my body and helped me realize the sexual prowess I actually have innately.
I’m not going to sit here and say that an escorts is going to solve your problems. I’m not gonna also say they won’t help. I just don’t know what’s happening in your head when you close your eyes; the battles and hangups you’re fighting and dealing with ya know.
But I’m pretty good at some things and one of them is finding you a “bad bitch tm.” And maybe suggesting how you should approach this depending on budget. I quite frankly could pick out five-ten ads for you if given half a clue what you desired in a provider.
Someone else can check the TER reviews or I can if I feel like resubbing. And, while you still have to walk through the door and speak to her. I can probably at least ensure you’re meeting one of the best in the biz, at any price point, and that at minimum, you won’t get robbed.
I can even give you the battle plan on how you wanna approach the situation, so you have some situational awareness without being stuck to a script.
This is one of the few things I happen to know way too much about. And like, I’d want you to have a good, safe time. Not be taken advantage of or feel like it’s a waste.
It can and should be an uplifting experience if done right. It should be a way to safely explore your sexuality and to get some practical, albeit costly, experience doing the deed.
