I'm having a hard time understanding exactly where the line is for some of us. There’s no such thing as judgment here—everyone has their own fetishes and niches, some of which might seem strange to others. But in this space, no one’s going to judge you... within reason. That said, I came across a story that left me conflicted—maybe even a little disgusted. It involves a provider being put in a position where she has to decide whether mailing a jar of her feces to an unreliable client is worth avoiding a bad review.
Depending on how you look at it, the situation seems pretty black and white. The provider specializes in fetish play—more specifically, “toilet sessions.” She feels she’s being pressured, maybe even blackmailed, by a client trying to get his way after canceling their original appointment.
The client started off fine. He sent in the deposit and paid for all the necessary supplies that come with a toilet session. But the day before their scheduled meeting, he canceled. He didn’t ask for the deposit back and left the supplies with the provider, which is standard.
Then, out of nowhere, he reaches back out and asks her to shit in a jar for him instead. From what I can gather, she might’ve been open to that originally—but considering he canceled and already showed himself to be unreliable, she declined.
That’s when things turned. The client starts demanding his money back, calling her a scammer and a thief, and now she’s left second-guessing whether she should just give in to avoid the drama.
From my perspective, the client’s clearly in the wrong. Canceling is one thing—life happens—but this feels like he was never serious to begin with or just trying to push boundaries for the hell of it. It’s the provider’s right to refuse. She doesn’t owe him anything more than what their original agreement covered. Calling her a scammer because she wouldn’t go above and beyond after a cancellation? That’s a weak move.
This is the kind of thing that happens far too often in the hobby—not the feces-in-a-jar part (thankfully), but the way some people switch up when things don’t go their way. And it goes both ways—clients and providers alike are guilty of it. There’s too much ego and not enough honesty. If either side expects this space to grow or even survive, accountability and clear communication need to be at the forefront. Otherwise, we’re just going to keep repeating the same cycles over and over.
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Depending on how you look at it, the situation seems pretty black and white. The provider specializes in fetish play—more specifically, “toilet sessions.” She feels she’s being pressured, maybe even blackmailed, by a client trying to get his way after canceling their original appointment.The client started off fine. He sent in the deposit and paid for all the necessary supplies that come with a toilet session. But the day before their scheduled meeting, he canceled. He didn’t ask for the deposit back and left the supplies with the provider, which is standard.
Then, out of nowhere, he reaches back out and asks her to shit in a jar for him instead. From what I can gather, she might’ve been open to that originally—but considering he canceled and already showed himself to be unreliable, she declined.
That’s when things turned. The client starts demanding his money back, calling her a scammer and a thief, and now she’s left second-guessing whether she should just give in to avoid the drama.
From my perspective, the client’s clearly in the wrong. Canceling is one thing—life happens—but this feels like he was never serious to begin with or just trying to push boundaries for the hell of it. It’s the provider’s right to refuse. She doesn’t owe him anything more than what their original agreement covered. Calling her a scammer because she wouldn’t go above and beyond after a cancellation? That’s a weak move.
This is the kind of thing that happens far too often in the hobby—not the feces-in-a-jar part (thankfully), but the way some people switch up when things don’t go their way. And it goes both ways—clients and providers alike are guilty of it. There’s too much ego and not enough honesty. If either side expects this space to grow or even survive, accountability and clear communication need to be at the forefront. Otherwise, we’re just going to keep repeating the same cycles over and over.
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