Planning a sponsored tour is going badly

[Townbizz54]

You know, I never considered that pronunciation. As for your sponsorship posts, I actually did reply in one but the format of your sponsorship wasn’t even close to this provider’s and I don’t recall you discussing the logistics side of it in any case. I wonder if you can make a post discussing that?

Either way, how do I cancel without losing the entire rate? I’m assuming I’m losing my deposit at this point.

I told you, you best move is to
Shift to a fmty or you fly to her incall for a date and use that money towards it

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[Townbizz54]

I don’t blame you. It’s not obvious.

obvious enough where I was able to figure it out lol

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[Swytypy]

obvious enough where I was able to figure it out lol

I take it back. If YOU could figure it out then…

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[Townbizz54]

I take it back. If YOU could figure it out then…

I’m not good with riddles. I honestly spell how I thought you said you at first. Don’t hate it embrace it swipity. Even Siri know know who you are now

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[Townbizz54]

I don’t blame you. It’s not obvious.


I’ve thought about writing a post like that a bunch of times. The way I do it on my own is the way I learned from TA, with a few modifications on my end. I think there are a few different ways it can happen, but for me, I almost always buy the plane tickets and hotel in the model’s name, book the day after she arrives as the day of my date and keep in communication as she has questions or requests. I consider myself her personal concierge for the booking, and on the day of our date. And in a few cases, at other times during her stay as well. My goal is for her to be so happy when she’s leaving my city that she sits in her seat on her plane ride home, closes her eyes, smiles and says to herself that she can’t wait to do it all over again, with me as her sponsor again.


Unfortunately, I’m not familiar enough with the specifics of how you went about this to know the best course of action here. I’ve never paid a deposit for a sponsored tour. Paying in advance for all of her travel expenses in my own Travelocity account so she can come to my city and make money after she sees me on her first full day here is all the deposit that’s been needed for me.

Do you still want the sponsored tour to happen if it so happens that the assistant taking over communications changes things and makes it stick? Or do you want to convert it to a regular booking at a later date and use the deposit toward that? Or is that even still an option?

Is either she or her assistant still communicating about a specific date that’s been locked down? Or are they still beating around the bush?

Unfortunately, until the date happens, no one can guarantee this is on the up and up, even with positive signs. All we can do is the opposite, if enough signs point to it - to tell you that we think your deposit is lost. I don’t think you're in the best position but I also don’t think you’re at the point where I feel you’ve lost your deposit yet from what you’ve written so far, but the answers to my questions above might change how I feel.

so just to be clear, you are in control of the room reservation correct? Meaning you can cancel it and you personally get refunded any out of pocket expenses at tha point same with flight you book it so
If in thory it get cancelled you get the flight credit correct?

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[AFlawedMind]

I don’t blame you. It’s not obvious.


I’ve thought about writing a post like that a bunch of times. The way I do it on my own is the way I learned from TA, with a few modifications on my end. I think there are a few different ways it can happen, but for me, I almost always buy the plane tickets and hotel in the model’s name, book the day after she arrives as the day of my date and keep in communication as she has questions or requests. I consider myself her personal concierge for the booking, and on the day of our date. And in a few cases, at other times during her stay as well. My goal is for her to be so happy when she’s leaving my city that she sits in her seat on her plane ride home, closes her eyes, smiles and says to herself that she can’t wait to do it all over again, with me as her sponsor again.


Unfortunately, I’m not familiar enough with the specifics of how you went about this to know the best course of action here. I’ve never paid a deposit for a sponsored tour. Paying in advance for all of her travel expenses in my own Travelocity account so she can come to my city and make money after she sees me on her first full day here is all the deposit that’s been needed for me.

Do you still want the sponsored tour to happen if it so happens that the assistant taking over communications changes things and makes it stick? Or do you want to convert it to a regular booking at a later date and use the deposit toward that? Or is that even still an option?

Is either she or her assistant still communicating about a specific date that’s been locked down? Or are they still beating around the bush?

Unfortunately, until the date happens, no one can guarantee this is on the up and up, even with positive signs. All we can do is the opposite, if enough signs point to it - to tell you that we think your deposit is lost. I don’t think you're in the best position but I also don’t think you’re at the point where I feel you’ve lost your deposit yet from what you’ve written so far, but the answers to my questions above might change how I feel.

The assistant has taken over communications and is far more responsive, even if she’s feeding me incomplete, if at least relevant, answers (I don’t think that’s intentional, but rather because she’s a go-between and isn’t taking initiative to ask follow up questions to the provider herself). The current date is the 28th, and if it gets rescheduled again I’m just going to ask to pivot to a regular booking instead of trying a new date. Re: losing the deposit, I meant if I ask to cancel at this point. The deal was to pivot if there weren’t enough bookings to make a tour worthwhile given that I’m not paying for her plane ticket (just the hotel), but again — the rescheduling was never my issue, the lack of planning what we do during the date was; I’m pretty sure the assistant and I can wrap everything up in 1-2 more rounds, and it’s really not the assistant’s fault (if anything, it proves why she has an assistant), but I’m just exhausted.

I think my main problem (and the reason for this thread) is that my enthusiasm for the date has disappeared because of this planning debacle. I’m a meticulous planner and really into crystal clear communication, and it seems the provider isn’t. I actually think the companion and I would have a good time on our date outside of the planning aspect, but IDK if I can separate my frustration with the planning from the date.

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[Swytypy]

so just to be clear, you are in control of the room reservation correct? Meaning you can cancel it and you personally get refunded any out of pocket expenses at tha point same with flight you book it so
If in thory it get cancelled you get the flight credit correct?

Yes for the most part. Depending on how it’s booked, you could end up with a flight credit that can only be used for you to buy her a ticket on the same airline at a later date. But that’s a very small expense, generally. I do usually buy travel insurance, which can help in some situations. But I “own” the booking and can technically cancel it.

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[Swytypy]

The assistant has taken over communications and is far more responsive, even if she’s feeding me incomplete, if at least relevant, answers (I don’t think that’s intentional, but rather because she’s a go-between and isn’t taking initiative to ask follow up questions herself). The current date is the 28th, and if it gets rescheduled again I’m just going to ask to pivot to a regular booking instead of trying a new date. The deal was to pivot if there weren’t enough bookings to make a tour worthwhile given that I’m not paying for her plane ticket (just the hotel), but again — the rescheduling was never my issue, the lack of planning what we do during the date was; I’m pretty sure the assistant and I can wrap everything up in 1-2 more rounds, and it’s really not the assistant’s fault (if anything, it proves why she has an assistant), but I’m just exhausted.

I think my main problem (and the reason for this thread) is that my enthusiasm for the date has disappeared because of this planning debacle. I’m a meticulous planner and really into crystal clear communication, and it seems the provider isn’t. I actually think the companion and I would have a good time on our date outside of the planning aspect, but IDK if I can separate my frustration with the planning from the date.

If I had a nickel for every time I’ve met a provider who was absolutely amazing in person but so horrible at communicating that it made me not want to see her anymore… well, I’d have 10 cents, but still. I get it.

I say take a wait and see, hopeful approach for the 28th, keep this thread updated with any progress or snags, and hope for the best.

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[Townbizz54]

Yes for the most part. Depending on how it’s booked, you could end up with a flight credit that can only be used for you to buy her a ticket on the same airline at a later date. But that’s a very small expense, generally. I do usually buy travel insurance, which can help in some situations. But I “own” the booking and can technically cancel it.

That’s what I always assumed see it’s a win got you becomes you are protected form the bull shit and not Puttting outa deposit in the normal sense that you have zero
Recourse beyond the goodness of the girls heart and if her chakras are in alignment that day and she feels like sending you back the money
And for the girl, she’s avoiding putting these expenses out and is motivated to show up because she’ll get nothing out of it if she doesn’t so it’s a win for you both

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[Swytypy]

That’s what I always assumed see it’s a win got you becomes you are protected form the bull shit and not Puttting outa deposit in the normal sense that you have zero
Recourse beyond the goodness of the girls heart and if her chakras are in alignment that day and she feels like sending you back the money
And for the girl, she’s avoiding putting these expenses out and is motivated to show up because she’ll get nothing out of it if she doesn’t so it’s a win for you both

Yes exactly. I once had a provider show up over 2 1/2 hours late for our sponsored date after taking the red eye. There were points where she was communicating and points where she wasn’t, and I thought I might be getting scammed when I hadn’t heard from her in over an hour. Then I realized there’s no scam to be had. She’d taken the plane here. What was she going to do? Get her own hotel and flight back and avoid me just to save a $300-$400 plane ticket? And it turns out she had just fallen asleep in the cab ride.

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[AFlawedMind]

If I had a nickel for every time I’ve met a provider who was absolutely amazing in person but so horrible at communicating that it made me not want to see her anymore… well, I’d have 10 cents, but still. I get it.

I say take a wait and see, hopeful approach for the 28th, keep this thread updated with any progress or snags, and hope for the best.

Yeah, I think if I cancelled now I’d definitely lose my deposit and she may ask for the full rate — I can’t afford to burn a multi-K deposit and I really do think the date itself would go well. I’ll update here accordingly!

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[Townbizz54]

A How many k deposit?

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[AFlawedMind]

50% of the rate (which is essentially her FMTY deposit which this seems to have become, TBH). It seems to be set though, but let’s see what happens. She was still looking for better flights (not charging me for them) as of yesterday

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[AFlawedMind]

If I had a nickel for every time I’ve met a provider who was absolutely amazing in person but so horrible at communicating that it made me not want to see her anymore… well, I’d have 10 cents, but still. I get it.

I say take a wait and see, hopeful approach for the 28th, keep this thread updated with any progress or snags, and hope for the best.

As I feared, this has ended terribly, with another emergency popping up followed by an insistence on the provider’s end that I was the one dragging this out. This has ended with irreconcilable differences, with both sides holding the other at fault for the breakdown. Frankly, this has been the only unprofessional booking process I’ve had since exploring this side of the world but it’s enough to get me to press pause on any future endeavors — at least for a while.

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[Swytypy]

As I feared, this has ended terribly, with another emergency popping up followed by an insistence on the provider’s end that I was the one dragging this out. This has ended with irreconcilable differences, with both sides holding the other at fault for the breakdown. Frankly, this has been the only unprofessional booking process I’ve had since exploring this side of the world but it’s enough to get me to press pause on any future endeavors — at least for a while.

Really sorry to hear this. Hopefully you're able to put this behind you quickly and get back in the game. I'd suggest using a reputable agency next time, at least if you're looking to book a porn star. At least then you'll know you're not getting scammed.

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