After 11 years in the hobby, I like to think I’ve been the “favorite” client for a few providers. Some of those relationships burned bright and faded within a year, while others have lasted more than half a decade.
So what does it actually take to get to that VIP status — the point where she’s genuinely happy to see your name pop up on her phone, remembers your preferences, and maybe even gives you perks most clients don’t get?
1. First Impressions Count — Bring Something
If I were brand new in the hobby and aiming for VIP status, I’d bring a small gift on the
very first meeting. Nothing over the top — just enough to stand out. It could be a really high quality box of chocolates, a nice bottle of wine, or something personal based on her ad or social media.
The goal isn’t to buy her affection, but to make her remember you.
2. Consistency Is King
If you want to fast-track things, see her
exclusively for the first month — ideally 7–8+ times. Yes, it’s an investment, but it pays off. By the fifth meeting, I can
almost guarantee that 99% of the time, you’ll be given her personal number. That’s when the dynamic starts to shift.
3. Build Comfort Through Light Communication
Once you have her number, start slow. Send small, casual messages — something light and friendly, nothing too heavy or personal too soon. It’s about building trust, not dumping your life story in her inbox.
4. Tip, tip & tip (Until you've "won her over")
I’ve found tipping to be one of the most powerful tools for building a long-term connection. Not huge amounts, but a little something
every single time. It signals appreciation and makes her look forward to seeing you. Every time I felt, “Okay, here’s someone I want to build with,” I made sure to tip consistently from day one.
5. Keep It Positive
Providers talk, but more importantly — they
remember. Don’t bring drama, don’t push boundaries, and don’t treat her like she owes you something. Being easygoing and enjoyable to be around goes further than most guys think.
In my experience, if you follow these steps, you can go from being just another client to being a provider’s
favorite in as little as a month — and in the right circumstances, those connections can last for years.
