I can definitely say that I’ve fallen for a provider before—and pretty badly at that. Back in 2019–2021, a big part of my life revolved around one particular girl. Honestly, it was way too much looking back. I obsessed over her to the point where it became unhealthy. She was my former sugarbabe, someone I met in 2019, and for the first six months I texted her “good morning” and “good night” every single day.
I had butterflies in my stomach constantly, but as time went on the feeling faded. Talking to other gentlemen who had gone through the same thing also helped me put it into perspective. In hindsight, it was a good thing that she and I hit the brakes and took a long pause—about eight months apart. We reconnected a bit this past summer, but as of now we’re on another standstill.
The reason I’m writing this post is because of a number of conversations I have had with a local gentleman. He’d gone through almost the exact same experience with a girl from South America. We talked about the girls we knew, our experiences, and eventually got into what happens to a lot of providers over time.
The reality is that many providers—whether regulars or more upscale—have dozens of admirers if they stay active for long enough. And some of those admirers eventually make “proposals.” Not necessarily marriage proposals, but offers of another kind.
For example, the gentleman I spoke with told me about a provider he knew who was constantly showered with gifts—perfume, clothes, even iPads. One client even asked her to quit the business altogether, offering her a place to live, all expenses paid, flights home to Colombia, plus a $2,000 monthly allowance. I’ve heard stories like this myself—clients trying to convince providers to leave the industry and be with them instead.
The bottom line is: most providers will, at some point, have several clients who make them these kinds of offers.
My advice - Don’t let yourself fall too deep. Or at the very least, don’t act on those feelings. It almost always ends in heartbreak. Trust me—I’ve been there.
I had butterflies in my stomach constantly, but as time went on the feeling faded. Talking to other gentlemen who had gone through the same thing also helped me put it into perspective. In hindsight, it was a good thing that she and I hit the brakes and took a long pause—about eight months apart. We reconnected a bit this past summer, but as of now we’re on another standstill.
The reason I’m writing this post is because of a number of conversations I have had with a local gentleman. He’d gone through almost the exact same experience with a girl from South America. We talked about the girls we knew, our experiences, and eventually got into what happens to a lot of providers over time.
The reality is that many providers—whether regulars or more upscale—have dozens of admirers if they stay active for long enough. And some of those admirers eventually make “proposals.” Not necessarily marriage proposals, but offers of another kind.
For example, the gentleman I spoke with told me about a provider he knew who was constantly showered with gifts—perfume, clothes, even iPads. One client even asked her to quit the business altogether, offering her a place to live, all expenses paid, flights home to Colombia, plus a $2,000 monthly allowance. I’ve heard stories like this myself—clients trying to convince providers to leave the industry and be with them instead.
The bottom line is: most providers will, at some point, have several clients who make them these kinds of offers.
My advice - Don’t let yourself fall too deep. Or at the very least, don’t act on those feelings. It almost always ends in heartbreak. Trust me—I’ve been there.
